you don't get what i'm saying either. when will you tell
your future partner?
on the first few dates? (you might as well not hide it then)
after a certain level of commitment? (good decision - because i
wouldn't date a divorcee, and i'm sure the same goes for a lot of
guys my age. also, see argument on medical conditions, bankruptcy
& stds)
right before rom? (i pray i'll never meet someone like you)
Yea, maybe I didn't get you - what was your argument on medical
conditions, banruptcy, stds and such?
Commitment has a lot of definitions so I don't know how to
answer your first two questions. But it would definitely not
be right before ROM. As for telling on the first few
dates, I've in fact told a couple of Asian guys who have
strongly declared that they will not get along with a divorcee,
about my divorced status before even officially dating them. It was
just to let them realise that they needn't waste more time
considering me, although I am also interested in them. They would
struggle for a while and some would still decide to try afterall.
Perhaps like some other forumers said, it's could be due to other
qualities, or it could be my personality. But in my opinion,
there's no point to that, they are extremely
eligible bachelors and there is no need for them to
invest time in someone whom they have already ruled out of their
criteria in the first place. We are looking for
lifetime marriage partners, not a temporary bgr
relationship. Another issue is that if I hadn't been married
before, guys would have "tried harder". But because of my divorced
status, the eligible males would probably think that it
is no big deal afterall, should I not show much interest.
I'm not trying to put across any message, just stating my
experiences. All right, enough of asking how big is the stigma in
Singapore. My next question would then be what causes the
stigma among Singaporean on divorcees?
And I have another curiosity. Many people mentioned age when
talking about BGR issues on this forum. Do most Singaporean girls
prefer guys of their age, rather than guys much older then them?
Much older in the definition of 5 to 10 years.
