I am a part-time student and right now, i'm trying my best to
concentrate on my studies (dec is my exams) but I can't because
something about my part-time job is bothering me.
I worked at this F&B place for a few months and when I first
came to this job, I had just completed my exams and I had a lot of
things on my mind regarding about results and the school.
The first day I was 'scolded' by this china colleague but I
chose to ignore him because I was very anti-social, anxious and
afraid of people. I was literally trembling because I judged people
by their appearance like I always do, so if they appear somewhat
fierce or b*itchy/bastardy or confident, I would start to get
really anxious and could not take in instructions properly. In
short, I was inside my own world.
Then there was this girl who was younger than me by a few years
'calmed' me down by saying nice things about me. I thought she was
being friendly to me at first but subsequently, I started to
realised something is wrong when I was stuck doing only a
particular station inside the kitchen whereas her and another two
young colleagues was moving ard a lot, from the counter to the
kitchen. I admitted that I was rude to her too but that's because i
didn't know what the hell is happening.
I was always getting scolded and being called 'slow' because I
was just doing what i was supposed to do, like doing my own work
and I don't understand why they were picking on me when I was told
it was supposed to be like this and I just did but they just kept
picking or shouting at me. Of course, consumed with confusion, I
shouted at one of this china colleague, let's call him A, who kept
screaming at me and banging the counter outside when I was serving
the out the food. The other china colleague B, was scolding and
picking on me in whatever I do. The assistant manager, a filipino
was also picking on me if she was ever on my shift. I swear the
food I serve was what they told me to do.
I was also getting insulted, especially by this china colleague
called A whenever I ask questions. I admitted that sometimes I was
too pushy. Ok fine. But there was one time, he stared at me right
inside my eyes and I was staring back at him and I was thinking '
are you alright?' He was holding an empty paper sack and then he
started to tremble vigorously, looked down and tore the paper into
half and started mumbling about how he would steal the virginity of
the girls by doing what he did. I was standing there shell-shocked,
completely insulted by his actions. Obviously I didn't tell
anyone.
So a few months passed and I didn't dare talked to this
guy...finally I was sent outside the dining area, did well and got
up to the cashier the next day. Anyways I was stucked doing outside
work for a while but subsequently, I started to do things outside
what a normal part-timer should not do which I wld not divulge it
here. This continued for quite a while and I even got irritated
when someone is standing somewhere doing nothing but I realised
that they were doing things right whereas I was abit too
'hardworking'.
So this china guy A. He always looked calmed the next day
despite what happened yesterday or whatever. But he was always
trembling (literally) with anger in front of me, talked about how
other people are stupid like he was going to spit venom on them or
else he would purposely threw things on the floor and screamed and
shouted at me (like he's going to beat me up) if I didn't pick it
up or else he would do the wrong things and push everything to me.
I once overheard him talking bad abt me, saying 'tamade, she's not
a mei nu' And if someone who knew the dynamics of the workplace
vented their anger on him, he would take it out on me by indirectly
insulting my gender to other colleague. And anything not done by
those people, I would have to take the shit (obviously) and sadly,
the screaming..if ever i was working with him. He would bang doors,
insult my gender and nationality if ever I asked a questions
regarding about the workplace.
In short, because I didn't know what happend and couldn't ask, I
was just literally taking in the abuse quietly because I didn't
know what was happening. And he even insulted me saying that
everyone knows except you and even smirk telling me how on this
particular shift how abt how this colleague work like a nu ren
(girl) and how this other full-timer colleague doesn't seem to do
anything at all. Then I asked him i'm pretty sure you talked bad
abt me. He lied and said no and said I was sooo good with sarcasm
of course and then I asked him abt something he started to insult
my gender again.
I went back home, exhausted from my shift and upset abt all the
insults he have given me just now and in the past and locked myself
up for two days in the room and lose 7kg in total. I was laughing
like a mad dog in my room and I thought of suicide.
This time I already knew how the dynamics of the workplace is
going on by looking at my pay slip, I mean I am just a part-timer,
why was I doing do many things on my own doing? But no one is
telling me anything though there was some part-timers and this
asst. manager giving me hints here and there. Then I finally caught
on and did things 'rightly' on my 'last' day.(I told them i wanted
to resign but i told them no the next day, that is my 'last
shift')
I was relieved but yet tramautised at how these people
treated me just because I didn't know the dynamics of the
workplace. They insulted my gender, insulted me personally (calling
me fat and constantly remind me by repeating it) , telling me that
i'm soo good sarcastically, telling me that i'm childish, stupid,
laugh at me and all sorts personal insults. And I took in all these
abuse for a pay of $5 per hour and I then I realised there's no pay
increase if the performance is good because i'm only a part-timer.
Then why do I have to bother with the dynamics of the work place
for????
So I went crazy yesterday and called up all the colleagues to
purposely ask for the details of my pay and obviously because i was
soo consumed with anger i literally smelt like gas, I was pushing
them to tell me and obviously if someone with a pushy attitude or
whatever they don't like would tell me all the wrong things and
some told me the right things and I stabbed the person with the
wrong details in the back. I just insulted them by calling up the
main manager in charge over there. Then he told me to look for him
but I hung up soon after.
Tell me, what should I do??? I nearly died because of the abuse
taken here.
Anyone who has report workplace harrassment to the police?
Next time, please post that you were molested or sexually assaulted
at work.
Abuse/Harrassment is really less distressful than being molested
or sexually assaulted at work.