Workplace abuse/harrassment

last SG · 2010-10-22T13:11:45+00:00

those who can't stand PRCs are not surprisingly non-chinese themselves...if they are...search the roots from where your forebears are from as u bore their bl...

XiaoBunbun SG

Hey littlemissbonkers,

Hehe, it does sound a little narcissistic. But erms.....it did happened to me, no matter how ridiculous it sounds. I got stabbed badly by a friend who initially was left alone and lost all her hair when she got promoted to my class, I came over and comforted her but she was always so selfish and screamed and shouted at me all the time everytime I came near her. Alice was the better friend. Sadly, I can't search for her in facebook.

But I honestly feel sad for the group of bullies right now as two of their so called 'friends' stabbed them on the back too.

No, I admit that I treat others like dirt and they did not reciprocate it very well.

To Hugh Hefner,

Yeah...thanks I guess? I am always very very long winded.

troublemaker2005 SG

Aiya, failure is part of life mah, fail is actually the begining of success, there are lots of ITE peoples I met are bosses, my drinks supplier, my renovator, our contractor maintenance, etc etc are all ITE or O level only, but all are towkays.

1. favoritism: sometime, it is not the qualification that get you to somewhere, if the boss favour you (especially those in private co), you can also become a director or CEO, work shake legs and people have to look upon you, if not, even master degree also work as head or manager only.

2. Neopotism: same group of people or relatives who tends to work and flavour only their own peoples (can be dialect group or races), tho singapore is already a developed country, it is sad to say that nepotism still very much cultured in our working life.

okay this one agree, again to an extend. you see a lot of ITS gradutes, some their families rich. so they just staudy a bit and take over family's business. while now lots of entrepreneur are graduates. i don;t deny those with lower education actually made a boss out of themselves. but of all the stories of succeessm behind there are also a trail of failures, bankruptcy . those bossess that drink an party at your place, some are really rich ones but sometimes many others just can get by only and yo won;t know the debts they are in until you see the books. Neopotsim, yesy although sg famous for corruption minimal but the family and friend comes first in workplace even iff its MNC exist.

littlemissbonkers SG

Hey littlemissbonkers,

But I honestly feel sad for the group of bullies right now as two of their so called 'friends' stabbed them on the back too.

No, I admit that I treat others like dirt and they did not reciprocate it very well.

To Hugh Hefner,

Yeah...thanks I guess? I am always very very long winded.

-.-

I think you need more friends...time to step outside your comfort zone.

likeyou SG

Hey littlemissbonkers,

But I honestly feel sad for the group of bullies right now as two of their so called 'friends' stabbed them on the back too.

No, I admit that I treat others like dirt and they did not reciprocate it very well.

To Hugh Hefner,

Yeah...thanks I guess? I am always very very long winded.

Back stabbing is common in the working place.

Take it as a pinch of salt.

Same as bad mouthing...also a common virus in the working place.

Take it easy or life in the company will be like a working HELL.

XiaoBunbun SG

Need more friends? I already added some of my ex-classmates that probably knew what was going on during sec sch in facebook and also added two of my past classmates' msn contact.

But my msn always indicate that they are blocked and I released the block but still........hopefully is not because they do not want to talk to me.

I feel sad and lonely. Why can't I have a normal life???? I don't want to be in working mode all the time!! I need someone to love me for who I am.

angel7030 SG

Now, the higher your education, the more you weight the risk factor in doing business, this led to higher educated people dare not to take risk, cos they calculated it, and forever they are mostly working class, for the lower grade, cos lack of risk knowledge, they dare to chiong, take failure as nothing to loose, cos if they give up, they also got nothing to loose, go back find a technician or operator job and life goes on, but they strive on and more importantly, do what they like and finally reach success.

Education incalcate risk

angel7030 SG

Need more friends? I already added some of my ex-classmates that probably knew what was going on during sec sch in facebook and also added two of my past classmates' msn contact.

But my msn always indicate that they are blocked and I released the block but still........hopefully is not because they do not want to talk to me.

I feel sad and lonely. Why can't I have a normal life???? I don't want to be in working mode all the time!! I need someone to love me for who I am.

before you really want someone to love you, you need to love yourself first ya..Stand up and be steady!

likeyou SG

Need more friends? I already added some of my ex-classmates that probably knew what was going on during sec sch in facebook and also added two of my past classmates' msn contact.

But my msn always indicate that they are blocked and I released the block but still........hopefully is not because they do not want to talk to me.

I feel sad and lonely. Why can't I have a normal life???? I don't want to be in working mode all the time!! I need someone to love me for who I am.

Dont loose hope.

One fine day, your love will come to you.

littlemissbonkers SG

Need more friends? I already added some of my ex-classmates that probably knew what was going on during sec sch in facebook and also added two of my past classmates' msn contact.

But my msn always indicate that they are blocked and I released the block but still........hopefully is not because they do not want to talk to me.

I feel sad and lonely. Why can't I have a normal life???? I don't want to be in working mode all the time!! I need someone to love me for who I am.

Those are not friends, they are acquaintances.

You have to be clear about what being friends with someone is all about. Just because you've added them on FB and know what shit they've been up to doesn't make you guys friends.

A friend is someone you can share your thoughts, feelings and experiences with. And will be there for you when you need help or when you need someone there.

Being friends with someone would also mean letting that someone confide her/his issues/secrets/problems with you, being there for them when they need help and sharing their burdens.

So when I said you need friends...I meant real friends. Not just people you know.

I need someone to love me for who I am.

Learn to love before asking to be loved.

XiaoBunbun SG

Erms...I didn't really think they are my friends because I also think that since it's so long ago, they probably have forgotten who am I or whatever I did.

But someone finally replied to me and asked for my msn and hopefully *crosses fingers*, she'll reply back.

kengkia SG

starting post is nothing but sea of words so i never read.

But one thing is the offending party a FT?

is the offending party your boss/superior?

if so blame yourself or your parents for voting in PAP.

XiaoBunbun SG

Yeah I talked to one of my ex-classmates about what happened during my last year in secondary school (I have to face my long hidden fears that caused most of my anxiety problems)

Anyways, I talked to him till 3am morning and he shouted at me saying it wasn't about my english grade (I got an A) that I was placed between the two team member of the political group in the front seat. Then after that he logged off.

Today, he went online on msn. I thought long and hard on my bed, knowing that in the past I used to skip school, show attitude problems, got bullied and so on and so forth. The seating arrangement in the classroom wasn't a coincidence. It was a great political play in the classroom. I thought hard and long and I realised perhaps the half front row of the seats was for people who are in great danger of failing in their school (aka the daydreamers that need loads of help and involved in playing the 'political game') and the back seat was for people who are decent in their studies. (Needing the least help and are usually left alone)

The teacher who previously yelled at me to go to ITE knew I had my struggles in the front middle seat and placed me together with Alice. She was patient and tried her best to help me but I was really, really disinterested in school. People of the political group (including one of my 'friend') tried to bully her but she was unfaltered. She was really the only true friend over there. I really want to find her and really wish her all the good luck in her life.

So that guy went online on msn. And I said hi and continued from last night...saying I know. Perhaps that teacher wanted me to drop out of school. He kept quiet and went offline.

I know you people are thinking...what the hell. Why bother since it's a long ago event. But it was an unforgettable event that caused me great depression, distrust, nightmares and enormous anxiety for two years and continous till now I got this F&B job and realised that sometimes, you got look beyond the facade and not trust people too much based on their appearance or thinking you know them that well.

littlemissbonkers SG

Yeah I talked to one of my ex-classmates about what happened during my last year in secondary school (I have to face my long hidden fears that caused most of my anxiety problems)

So that guy went online on msn. And I said hi and continued from last night...saying I know. Perhaps that teacher wanted me to drop out of school. He kept quiet and went offline.

I think you just missed that guy's point whatever it was.

And hor, don't over complicate things....seating arrangement also got politics involved

Most probably the teacher just wanted to keep an eye on you for watever reason.

likeyou SG

I think TS need to learn how to let it go and not hold them tighty for nothing.

XiaoBunbun SG

Dear missbonkers,

Like I've said, it may sound ridiculous and yes, the teacher may/was probably keeping an eye on me. Because I was a lonely girl who had no friends in school, got teased, kept skipping school and also was asked to see a counsellor.

Hmmm, I *think* he was trying to use me indirectly or probably also trying to teach the whole class a hidden lesson (cause it was our last year in sec school) about differentiating people and the ones who should be left alone.

There was one guy, who was made out to be a bad person (I feel bad for him) helped me secretly and even caused a huge trouble because of me. And then this Alice girl too, got bullied

I was lucky to be assisted by them in the last year but I didn't even notice it until I went out to work and now I decide to give it a try and trying to find them back right now.

littlemissbonkers SG

Dear missbonkers,

There was one guy, who was made out to be a bad person (I feel bad for him) helped me secretly and even caused a huge trouble because of me. And then this Alice girl too, got bullied

I was lucky to be assisted by them in the last year but I didn't even notice it until I went out to work and now I decide to give it a try and trying to find them back right now.

When and if, you do manage to find them, and you find that they're not the same people as they were before den how?

Hopefully you'll be able to move on after that.

But anywayz, this is your decision and I hope you know that whatever decision you make from now on will affect how your life turns out. And I hope you'll be able to take personal responsibility for it.

Good Luck

XiaoBunbun SG

I don't know. But at least I wish I could talk to them or something. Especially these two.

The teacher probably wanted to teach me a lesson (because I had serious attitude problems but I was only a naive teenager that had no experience or friends. And plus I got bullied badly. But anyways, the bullies got what they deserved anyways..not that I care, but hopefully they change their attitude)

The 2 years was hell for me. How I wish I could go back in time and reject the first middle seat given by that teacher. How I wish my 'N' level certificate at that point of time could enter into higher nitec. I was preparing to enter ITE but by 'miracle' I passed 'N' levels.

But nvm...I already gotten my higher nitec and now i'm schooling but not very confident though....because i'm a bit lazy hehehe...not in a studying mode right now...

Fcukpap SG

very cute replies...xiao bunz bunz

Fcukpap SG

as u have seen the ad in the MRT...

"It does not matter how slow you go so long as you do not stop." - Confused

angel7030 SG

must be related to love making...

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