I have two sons, one son still here and the eldest I sent him to
Australia to study at a university there. He has been there for 5
years. However the past two years my eldest son refuse to come back
for the holidays, his reason is that he has a lot of
extracurricular activities and he wants to go for summer school. I
suspected that he was hiding something.
Then recently, I receive the surprising news from my nephew who
is also studying at the same university as my eldest son. My nephew
tells me that my son is officially going out with a fellow
Australian university male student. My nephew has seen both of them
hold hands and kiss each other on the lips. I heard that my son has
even joined the LBGT rights group at the university.
Although we now live in the modern times and we have to accept
trends in society, I have trouble accepting my son's sexual
orientation. He never strike me as a gay because all the while at
school he is popular and he likes to get involve in sports
activities. I don't know what I am going to say to him when he
comes back after completing his final year. I have given him
everything he wants, the degree he wanted to pursue. I love my son
dearly but I find it hard to accept the fact that he is gay. I want
to hear his side of his reason but it tears my heart to see my son
become like this. I am not against gays but if any of you readers
out there got a son and he turn Gay, how wouldyou feel? I always
wanted my own grandkids, want to see my son have his own family but
now I am saddened that he has decided to take a very odd path.
He will come back next June, and I will be ready to sit down
with him heart to heart talk.
There are, and have been, gay sportsmen. Those who've come out
include Justin Fashanu (football) and Gareth Thomas (rugby).
I don't know what your relationship with your elder son was like
when he was younger. However, try to let go. He is his own man now
and he has chose to act on his orientation. I'm sure he will repay
your love in other ways, or pay it forward. You had hopes that
he'll sire grandchildren but that's not among his priorities.
(However, in some countries gay couples are allowed to adopt
children so you never know, and you have your other son who may
prefer women)
It's difficult for a lot of people to accept a gay child or
sibling, and it will remain so for you for a long time until you
get used to it. He may still be living in fear of getting disowned.
Try and introduce the topic subtly the next time you contact him.
For now you have to reach out to him and make it known that you
still love him, that he is accepted and that you'll try to make his
partner feel welcome.
Unlike what some groups would have you believe, your son cannot
be "made straight" again unless he wants to. He'll only resent any
efforts to make him get into relationships that he doesn't
want.
