Hi Aunt,
Hoping to find some answers here.
I am just go tmarried since Jan this year with my steady gf
of 3 years. Never did we have any intimate relationship
when we were bf n gf relationship due to her religion and of
course respecting her as well.
Well after we got married we did tried to be intimate a few
times but everytime we failed to proceed to penetrative
intimacy. Seems like she complained pain and push me away and
we both lost the mood of doing it after a few failed attempts.
It has been like 8-9mths now without any form of penetrative
intimacy. At first i thought i was
unskillful, unromantic or not enough foreplay to set
the right mood but I had 3 ex-gfs before her and I had
sex with them before so do speak I do have some little
experience.
Nevertheless I scout around for tips and advices from
friends and Bros in the forum. So I brought her to a resort beach
hotel in bintan for 3D2N stay. Had a romantic dinner , spa ,
champange and whatever to make the mood right.
Proceeded to do about 30mins of oil massage for her and
about 30mins of foreplay (not sure it is long for
some) and then she pushed me away when I wanted to
penetrate. After that she apologises and I lost all my
mood. I tried talking to her about this and she keep saying
scare of pain. I encourage her to see a doctor but she makes a big
fuss that she is perfectly alright and we quarrel over this a few
times.
Though I acted strong and said nevermind but deep down inside I
do not know how long more can I take it.
Any ideas what can I do next ?
Wow even i also can't be that patient. Not to mention you
already had 3 gf before her and had sex with them before. You are
considered to be very sweet to her already imo. You tried so many
times and every time she say pain la all that means she is selfish
la. I mean you want have sex with your wife is normal la. People
not married also did it with gf already. If 10 times you want sex
and 10 times she reject. You tell me who more selfish. Don't care
whatever religion or what la. I mean it her duty right. Just like
it your duty to provide for her what. Don't tell me what women's
right or women are equal all that and women can support themselves.
Deep down this is the norm lor, which husband don't have sex with
their wife. You really sound like a genuinely sincere guy if you
can start the post with Hi Aunt. Don't be so silly la. For girls
sex is like a rollercoaster. They haven't sit yet they like damn
scared, but once they on it they scream all the way then they go...
again, again like teletubbies.. Don't be so soft. You can call me
sick or what la but some time you gotta act like a man and just
take charge. Give in to a girl's bullshit all the time for what.
Call me ego, call me MCP, whatever. It just sex, what the big deal?
Is it so frickin hard to have sex? Pardon the lousy
pun.. 
Girls will always side with girls de
la. They will say why you guys so insensitive, why you all cannot
understand it painful la blah blah.. scared la blah blah blah.. I
mean fuck it la. If i need love i buy a dog, if i need someone do
housework i get a maid, if i need to have sex.. well you get the
idea? So just fuck her and get over it. Get her drunk or what la
then do it then the next time she won't so painful anymore. You
will probably tell me her religion don't allow her to drink. And i
will tell you there are a few million other girls out there and you
just got screwed into this non intimate marriage as you called it.
This is the reason why guys stray. When people don't get something
they need or want from their relationship, they find it elsewhere.
Don't say Geylang cuz it disgusting. Sorry dude, i kinda pity you
that why i bothered to say so much. You both are not sexually
compatible and that part of your relationship will drag down the
rest of your love and sour. She not sexually compatible with
anyone. You think about it la, if you knew she will be like this
after you marry her. Will you still be as enthusiastic to marry
her? Would you still say yes? You ask yourself honestly and think
have you made a wrong decision. You did so much le. What else can
you do? Be patient? Use lubricant? See doctor? Kindly try them all
first. Last tactic, if just nice you want a baby now, then you say
you want a baby to her la, if she still say pain la all that crap
then you say like that how to have baby? Then she lan lan have to
lor. If all else fail don't fight a losing battle. Just dump her la
and when people ask you why. Say she can't have sex and won't have
a baby. All things covered. Now i'm the bad guy. Nvm la used to it.
lol
