TS,
It is his business and his choice to be what he is.
Rite/wrong is subjective. your business is to
self-honestly know whether are u with him cos you
love him or cos u need him or he fulfils .... Love is nice lah, it
is not the wrong person or the right person. It is the people who
are in it who profess love but on closer scrutiny are neurotic
and do things and say things causing misery to oneself n
the other(s) . As to whether he loves you, my intuition tells
me he does not, ie. he has misintrepted the ''something
else'' as loving you. The something else could be expectation,
needs, .... only he knows and would only know if he is being
self-honest. I feel that he is merely a victim of his own
neurosis. It won't go away till he is reconciled to the demons''
within himself! There is nothing anyone can do about it and better
to accept him and walk away gracefully. Making him wrong is unwise.
Being wise is allowing the other to be, which does not mean you
have to be a part of it. That is dignity.
Leave if u cannot cope, leave if u cannot
help wonder and be left suspecting - cos the past will
certainly encroach onto the future , though it has yet to
come.
Trusting another is accidental, trusting oneself is fine, it is
the essence of living n even if things work out or dont
work - one is always a winner. '
PS - No expectations = no hurt, no frustration and that
is the key that unlocks the doors to the undefinable
phenomenon called love lah.
