This kind of situation is not abnormal. U have to strike a
delicate balance. When I have gf, my good girl friends still
contact. Its all about trust really. If ur partner starts to
distrust u too much, u must show her that u are trusthworthy.
Simple things like, the things you do for ur partner must not be
less then what u do for ur good friend.
Most of my good friend who is of opposite sex , we at some point
were in a r/s before. And seperated in good terms. And the very few
close one that I never had any rs with, they are not just normal
friends. We are attracted to each other not sexually, but more like
mutual respect of each other. The understandings we can achieve and
not to mention certain intelectual capacity to satisfy such a close
r/s.
Most of the time my gfs before wont really accept it, but slowly
they will understand. But if they truly give me an arbitrary
"me or her" kinda situation... which was like once, we just
went our seperate ways. And after that, we still became good
friends.
But sometimes you could feel that both are trying to resist each
other. Thats why its important to hold on to ur principals and
professionalism. Its not hard.. and not easy at the same time.
Anyways, one of the ways to ease it in, is to go dinner or any
social activity together and ur good friend if got partner, bring
the partner along lo. Given that sometimes conversations may end up
about how the good friend de partner will say how she tells him
quite a bit about you... or that he heard about you..etc. May get
awkward, but like I said, its a delicate situation, and u
must navigate the minefield carefully so nobody misunderstands. If
no partner, then she can bring her other friend or what and become
friends lo
One important thing to note tho, you cant be an asshole or a
bastard to the girl and expect the entire situation to succeed. As
a guy, you must pave the ground and treat her as well or better. Or
itsgoing to be really hard to reconcile the differences
