Discovered hubby playing around

last SG · 2010-07-03T23:33:19+00:00

So angry that I wanna castrate then leave him. this.

Veggie Bao SG

No....

It's not "which cat doesnt eat fish"

It's not so simple......

To give you an example...

This cat already has a fish at home, he is not supposed to go out fishing at the pond.

Something happened to the cat.

Anyways I am just saying........try to seek a root cause and seek a possible treatment.......

Anyways I cant say too much.

gunner77 SG

send me the pics.

^^renee^^ SG

"Suffering from something" is just an excuse.

Men always turn around and say that women suffer from PMS... why can't we get cured from that first...Life is just not equal la.

Men ought to be taught a firm and severe lesson. Why can't they be faithful unconditionally ? If they are fed up of the wife, then say so... see what can be done to repair the relationship etc..Having affairs is the worst, most hurtful kind of experience a faithful dutiful wife has to go through.

For that kind of pain, I don't know what kind of revenge is deserving of these useless men.

Veggie Bao SG

Suffering from something is not an "excuse".

It is real.

He may have depression, self-doubt, mid-life crisis, anxiety, sexual addiction, or cybersex addiction.

All these are potent disorders which cannot be helped.

I say something like this, you cannot understand or accept.

Maybe I give another example.

Gambling addict.

Now, I remove the love / sex part. Do you agree there are people who suffer from gambling addiction?

How about drug addiction?

But those 2 conditions also severely harm their familial relationships. It harms to all directions.

But this is something which is psychological.

And especially for a case like this, dont just immediately blame the wrongdoing person. How it happened this way, what went wrong? Is something wrong with him? Maybe something wrong with the marriage relationship also? It is uneasy but it is neccessary to look deeper, however uncomfortable it is.

celia_sg SG

It's not easy to get the man to admit that something is wrong with him in the first place. Very rarely will any man admit it's his fault, let alone want to admit something is wrong with him.

In these situations, the wife is the one who bears the most suffering, heartache and loss. I really sympathise with you "Revenge441". You got to be strong for your kids and walk out of this relationship. Don't give up.

Deino SG

before you do anything, make sure your kids come first.

[email protected] SG

I discovered my hubby been playing around when he forgot to logout from his msn.

What am I suppose to do? So angry that I wanna castrate him! From the conversation, they were sending dirty pics to one another and had met up with her!

I am in two mind now...one to divorce him,(we've been married for 10 yrs) and the other to take revenge. Expose him and the slut online! I have their pictures especially the slut. That slut is a local married woman too. How can she do that!

I thought of putting her pictures all over the internet to take revenge on her for breaking up our family. Or should I get a PI to make it official. I haven't told my hubby I knew his unfaithfullnes. In fact, after this, I secretly check on him, his hp msgs and discovered that he cheated on me with a few other women! I have 2 kids and am working too.

I have ask my friend ( she is in IT) to check up on the slut as I have her email and her name. I knew I had to leave him but I can't take it lying down! I want revenge on both of them! Disgrace them!

Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. Guys, do you know what you are dealing with?

Why can't you be like Jack Neo's wife and forgive your husband? Maybe your husband doesn't have as much money as Jack Neo.

You don't need to be in two minds. You can take revenge first and then divorce him. Gather evidence without alerting your husband. If you can afford to hire PI, it should be better as it can provide more compelling evidence.

Revenge is always sweet!

_Da_Dood_ SG

sure u want revenge anot....revenge is an never ending vicious cycle leh...it will bite u damn hard on ur ass and it will be too late to regret....

parn SG

Where are the pictures?

Terminator Hitman SG

buy a baseball bat or golf clubs and whack his balls....when he is asleep.....no need divource.

Terminator Hitman SG

remember to pick up his balls afterwards.

yani_yani SG

Revenge441,

How are you now? Have you taken any action yet?

I hope the women who have been playing with your husband get their deserving retribution for luring your husband. Similarly, I hope all similar women who provoke infidelity in other married men get retribution.These sluts need to be punished severely for breaking a couple's marriage.

DriftingGuy SG

This is just so wrong. A married man cheating with a woman who is also married as well! Thats altogether 4 people involved.. Like all the advice given here, one of the most important would be to think of the kids as well.

And most importantly, before you let your emotions get the better of you, don't be too rash. Think carefully on how you should deal with this as anything done when being very angry might make you regret later. As many have said, seek a marriage counselor who can see the best way out for you calmly

SevenEleven SG

This is Aunt Agony, people with trashy ideas or out for fun please stay out.

Fugazzi SG

If it is really true as you have spouted here about ur spouse's alleged infidelities - he is no longer being a husband and no longer interested but simply holding on to something that died long ago.

That is the reality.

To make another wrong and make oneself rite is unhealthy.

If u cannot cope and cannot accept the situation - resolve to make a decision but the blame game is just an excuse.

Also, to blame the other ''woman'' is totally unfair cos your spouse is also part of the equation.

No one can change another and the sooner one understands and unlearns the ''conditioning' it would have one in good stead to handle living.

To change another one changes one's behaviour to elicit change - words are an exercise in futility.

Avenging is not about the other but what has always been there within oneself and has now surfaced and thus the wanting to take revenge.

Judging another is in actuality speaking volumes about oneself who is passing judgement.

To stay or not stay is not the issue - being self-honest and facing what ''is'' may go a long way to saving oneself and those who one professes to care or what have you. It is easy to leave a relationship, marriage or ... but one doomed to repeat if it is unreconciled within oneself - let me reiterate, being self-honest is essential.

~ carry on ~ SG

Catch no ball in what he's trying to say.

Anyway, of course the spouse shares the blame with the "other woman". Taking revenge will never give you happiness because nothing can repair what the 2 of them destroyed by having their affair.

The only thing that can give you 'happiness' would be to work it out with him to see if your marriage is repairable and if it has more value over your hurt. If not, then leave him and find another happiness.

Hamsterbaby SG

It's not easy to get the man to admit that something is wrong with him in the first place. Very rarely will any man admit it's his fault, let alone want to admit something is wrong with him.

To Celia_sg

You are full of Shit , you think Man don't suffer as much as the women in such situations if they switch places and it was the wife who cheated instead ?

As for the Poster of this thread your advice is written as follow

Anyway advice to you, gather all information expose him and make sure you get the freaking alimony , he needs to suffer and get a wake up call make sure the drama unfold between the other married women and her husband as well.

Just do it and dont even finch , most important you have to do it with absolutely no emotions when he confront you and say sorry. Cheating is something should never be forgiven, everything else you can forgive but cheating is a BIG NO.

Only show your emotions when you are in court , make sure you get the Video of them having sex or something as well.

In such situations you need to remain CALM to plan out your next move and attacks and make sure he doesn't realized you know about it .

Smile at his jokes treat him nice , and when you gather all information give him one big stab so that he can never recover properly.

Asromanista2001 SG

the best revenge is to sleep around lor..........bring the guys home as well and make sure hubby catches you in bed with them !

Hamsterbaby SG

I can understand how you feel.

Sometimes, you can be so angry until want to chop off his penis when he's sleeping and throw it to the dogs.

How can a man you loved, married, bore children with and swore to grow old together with do this to you ?Even if you consider you want to salvage the marriage and forgive him for the sake of the children, how do you know he's not doing it on the sly again ?

And...... by doing the same back to him (ie: having an affair to make him a cuckloid) doesn't bring any satisfaction at all. The issue here is : the wife loved the husband so much and yet he betrayed her.

I wish all straying men a cancerous death.

I totally agree and same thing for Women too, Straying women should die off Aids and cannot produce babies for the rest of their lives.

And become super Ugly and ridiculously Fat with a horrendous smell.

IreneGoh SG

Hamsterbaby,

Why are you so angry at women? I think the above posts were directed at all straying and cheating spouses (regardless of gender). Its just that these posters were female and they probably empathized with revenge441 as a woman too.

Don't you agree that its more common to find cheating husbands than wives although I know these days, women are very liberal and are equally likely to cheat on their husbands.

In the situation of cheating husbands, the wives have to look after the children and thus have more to suffer. More often, the responsibility of looking / caring for the children in a broken marriage falls on the woman and not the man. And having put in much of her youthful years into building the family, she now has to continue shouldering the care for the children alone.

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