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are you perfect? have you never done anything that you regret
and wished for chances in your life? from the sound of it, it seems
you could do no wrong. or perhaps you do have that 1 or 2
regrettable things, and you choose the cowardly way out: you exit
the entire relationship when you could have chose to face up to it
and make amends, that is what a MAN do, he dun run.
from what you said abt my example, by bearing with the agony of
multiple betrayal, you feel that is a show of weakness? its people
like me who condone such acts of infidelity? well, its either of 2
things:
possibility 1: you did not read the post properly because you
seemed to miss the fact, that she knew it was a problem that she
have. (and upon checking with her ex bfs, none of them lasting more
than 6mths, its true. she has been cheating her entire life. thats
how all her relationships ended.) you also missed the fact that i
concluded in which she has been 'clean' for the past 1 year.
her precious sister sms me: you are the only guy i have
seen with her so far, who may be able to help her....please give it
some thought...
you see, Sg lovecop, there is something you are missing here.
you do not understand that she cannot help herself. not everyone is
as mentally strong as you are.
but she wants to change, qn is, who is going to help her change?
a kiddo WILL leave her and say: F*ck you slut!
a man will say: are you possitive you want to change? how do you
intend to change? how can i help you to change?
possibility no. 2: you absorbed all the facts but because you
are too immature to understand the essential point: its human to
err. question is, is he/she willing to be better.
yes, i do check on her and the reason behind it is very simple.
it was a solution proposed by her so as to help me slowly gain back
the trust in her again. it was to both of us at that point in time,
the best way forward. Even my counsellor said so. and i am proud to
say, i dun feel the need to check on her as frequently as in the
past.
here's a real life qn for you to ponder Sg Love cop: at the very
beginning of any relationship, trust is implicit until one party
breaks it. question is, does it mean that the broken pieces should
be swept and thrown away? and start looking for another one? please
think.....not for anyone's sake, for your own sake.
you say i am in no position to advise TS, i tell you why i am
eligible to advise the TS. i understand the pain of betrayal. that
is what he going through now. i do admit, without a child in my
equation, its slightly different. but it does NOT hide the fact
that what the TS is going thru now is something that i can relate
with. and you, being such a....' perfect person' i would assume,
have never been betrayed. so tell me, in what capacity do you have,
to advise the TS to ruin 3 lives by having a divorce?
1 last thing i have to point out to you; Quoting you:
of course its a very tough road. why do you say it never
end? if you are living happily, all the suffering should already be
behind you. i really doubt whether you are living happily with your
wife now or you are just settling for whatever you can get. TS's
wife doesn't even want to go to counselling.
when you question why i say it never ends, it just proves 1
thing: you are really in-experienced in relationships. a
relationship is a journey, its not a fairy tale book that ends with
living happily ever after.
You have a lot to learn about relationships, my young
friend.
you entertain the possibility of fooling around with other
women. are you in a position to advise TS?