This date was just a casual dinner between office colleagues.
Just like u having dinner with your male buddies.
You cannot force her (lets say Jasmine) to love u. But finding
out her thoughts wouldn't hurt. And being manupulative (WITHOUT
EVER TELLING HER) might worl to your advtg.
U: Hi Jasmine, I brought a gift for u but I would also like to
speak to u privately, is that ok?
HER: Sure, lets go to a private corner.
U: I made this tiramisu for your going away party, I hope u like
it
HER: O my God, the tiramisu looks lovely. U are such a wonderful
ex-colleague.
U: Yeh, to be frank, my mother helped me to make it. People also
tell me i have butter fingers
HER: I think that is the most touching thing someone has ever
done to me.
U: O comon. I'm sure your parents have touched your hear so many
times. BUT KNOW THAT U MENTON IT, there is a 2nd thing I like to
talk to you about.
HER: What's that?
U: I wouldn't mind keeping in touch with u when u are overseas.
I know u have a lot of friends. But do u have the time to answer my
e-mails. My reaso is that I usually have many issues and
complications in the office and I would like your opinion (because
u seem to be proficient in solving office politics).
HER: Of course, sure. Write to me anytime. I'll email u my oz no
in case u need to call me.
U: Really appreciate it.
Comment: What u are aiming at is communication. And
communication is on a regular basis. U call her n u tell her your
office problems. She consoles u. But u must also ask her how
everything is at oz. If she says she has problems settling
in, offer a solution. Google b4 u call her to find out solution in
settling in a foreign country. They give a lot of tips. Then use
those tips to console her.
Comment: U must be realistic that if she spends 1 year in oz,
she might meet a guy whom she likes. So NEVER have any
expectations, since u are not committed to her, and the
relationship is casual. But if the phone calls keep coming in, u
know she's becoming comfortable with u. So in 9 months time u
say
U: 'Can I be frank. Over this period I've seem to become quite
attached to u. I don't know why. It seems I connect better with u
more than any friends I have. Our previous phone conversations so
resonated with your character.I wonder if we can try going out
after u return. I would like that very much. IT'S OK TO SAY NO. I
am not the type of person to fporce someone to out if she doesn't
want to.
SHE: Uh, well...I am curently seeing an Australian man right
now, so I don't know if it would complicate matters.
U: But we are just PLATONIC FRIENDS. U enjoy my friendship and I
enjoy yours. It would just be a casual dinner between u and I.
Nothing to worry about.
She: (open minded after being in a white country): Alright
then.
In the meantime while u r eating with her, I'll bash up that
white bas#$#d to a pulp.
I'm very good at this eh?
thank you bhw that was interesting haha...but Im only a temp
staff and my contracts ending soon Im still studying. she was a
temp also. That's why I replaced her.Actually, besides the
tiramisu, I want to lend her a book also which I think it might
come in handy to her when she is in Australia (the book is from my
sis as she is an ex student in Australia). I tot that she would ask
what am I going to give her then I would tell her but I didnt
expect this. I called her today but no one answered. I then dropped
her a msg saying that I need to pass her the book which might be
useful to her. That time she mention that she has problems finding
accomodation in Australia online.