Hi TS.. faced similar problem in my current r/s. been thru hell
and over for this thing.
Not trying to be a MCP, but one thing i learn from it is to
never back down. Never let her make u doubt yourself. Once you
doubt yourself, she is all over ya head and there will be no
looking back. Probably from her point of view, she thinks that as a
girl, she has all the rights to be doing and demanding all these
out of you, while you as a man, you shld be a gentlemen and kindly
oblige with her. I disagree with it. To me, even married couples
should still have their own privacy. You might have nothing to hide
and if ya reject her request to show her yr phone, it will seem
like you are guility of some adultery or shit like that. But what
you need to fight for is your own rights and a certain amount of
privacy. Img this, if u let her do all these now, what will come
next? Check ya email? Bug ya phone to listen to all phone calls?
Trace all the websites that you surf? It will become a never ending
vicious cycle. Dont ever get embroil in it.
Basically i take all these as her mind-fcuking you. Be it if she
is doing it intentionally or not, it really isnt the right thing to
have in a relationship.
Im lucky in the sense that my girl is willing to change and she
realised that many of her actions and attitude will not make our
r/s work. It took alot of arguments and threats of ending the r/s
for it to be solved.
Im not asking you to break up with her. I understand the kind of
love the two of u might be having. FYI, im with my girl just after
a week she broke up as well.
Stand firm and take things as a men. Maintain your principles
for the good of your future with her.
well said...i think this is kinda a common problem
i rmb my ex once said, girls having an outside affair is because
of love, guys having an outside affair is because of lust..lol
