Had a chat with her on Wednesday over dinner. Asked her if she
wanna get married or still wanna play. She said wanna play. Wanna
play as in stay single, not play as in go choinging/clubbing.
I asked further, why she dun wanna marry? She said we are having
financial difficulty and have alot of problems. Financial
difficulty as in we are unable to buy a house due to not having
enough cash though we both have a stable job. She kept quiet when I
asked for more details about the problems we have. She seems
confused at this stage.
She said that she feels comfortable when we nap together during
weekends but she is confused at moments like this. I was quite
taken aback...
Later that night, we went back to her house to chat more. She
looked confused. She later said that she does not know if I am the
right one. We went quiet... She broke the silence and asked, what
will I do if she later thinks I am not the right one? I said I will
leave. We went quiet again... She whispered thank you after a few
quiet moments.
She asked if I will feel bu gan xin (不甘心）. I said yes. She
stroked my thigh as if calming me down, making me feel better. She
said shortly, we can still be friends. I smiled back bitterly. I
told her I hope she can make a decision soon.
Bought her a bouquet of roses on Sunday as she is feeling very
down on Sat. We had a quick chat again. She asked me to give her
some time and she hugged me very tightly. She seems very badly hurt
from the last relationship...
Sometime girls need to be sweet talked. You can try to ask
directly like, eh if one day i propose to you will you accept ?
Dont ask for more details, i think she needs more confidence in
love and herself. Just say something like, if i am not the right
one, at least i accompany you through this period of time... Sounds
corny but it works. Little words like that assure her and gives her
confidence. Dont pressure her too much into marriage. Give her more
attention and concern