gf problem

TTFU SG

It all takes time, hope your GF understands and be less paranoid. I failed at something similar before, in the end we seperated and she found a new bf. Hope your sacrifice pays off.

jojobeach SG

I dunno about this but 1 thing I do know is that if I dun a place in her heart, she wont pull me back when I am leaving. She wont even think of marriage in 2, 3 years time.

I dun need to be the special one. Just need her to know if I am the right one will do. She has been very hurt b4 and I have nursed her back to a better state. I plan to do this all the way until she is completely ok.

You ? Nursed her back to health ? What rubbish.

It was TIME that heals everything.

I think you are more of a burden to her now than a knight in shining armor.

2-3 years to see if you a the right one ? Fooey.

If a girl really wants you.. 2-3 MONTHS is more than enough.

You are only deluding yourself lah.

You think you have her mum on your side so you stand a chance ? Oh please. The pressure will make her dislike you more.

You don't have any other gals to go out with doncha ? Go out and make friends.. meet other girls.

This self pitying is so pathetic.

goofyzell SG

You ? Nursed her back to health ? What rubbish.

It was TIME that heals everything.

I think you are more of a burden to her now than a knight in shining armor.

2-3 years to see if you a the right one ? Fooey.

If a girl really wants you.. 2-3 MONTHS is more than enough.

You are only deluding yourself lah.

You think you have her mum on your side so you stand a chance ? Oh please. The pressure will make her dislike you more.

You don't have any other gals to go out with doncha ? Go out and make friends.. meet other girls.

This self pitying is so pathetic.

You are the one who is pathetic.

If TIME heals everything, why do still need doctors, counsellors, etc? Do you go see a doctor when you are sick? IF you do, dun say this crap here. Saying TIME heals everything is just trying to lie to yourself.

I was there to give her moral support and lend her a shoulder. Always there when she breaks down. Encouraged her, pacify her when she is going break down. What DO you know? I helped her get better. Now she is very much happier. Not like last time, will cry in the middle of the night, have nightmares... and I am not claiming for it. Her mum saw how much I am willing to go through with my gf.

I didnt say ask her mum to put in a few words in my favour. I just said her mum will talk to her, talk her out of her fear. Not hypotise her to choose me. If fact I NEVER asked her to give me an answer.

I dun have to report to anyone how many gals are asking me out. Who cares? Why bother showing off too? I'll go out when I feel like going out with them.

Why are you so worked up for?

brainerror SG

comman relationship problem, firstly you're a guy dont be too relying on a relationship.
secondly, she doesnt trust you.

jojobeach SG

You are the one who is pathetic.

I dun have to report to anyone how many gals are asking me out. Who cares? Why bother showing off too? I'll go out when I feel like going out with them.

Why are you so worked up for?

Oh.. so you are her love doctor lor. Without you she would have died right ?

Please lor, how many boyfriends before you ? Did she die ? No right?

Today , she is still alive to torture you.

Girls went through bad breakups .. many times in our life, do we die ? No, every breakups puts us closer to the right guy.

We adapt and learn. Not as weak as you think dude.

She tell everyone is fear ah.. then don't get into relationship lor. Simple wat.

I also fear drowning wor.. but I love floating in big swimming pool with my pina colada served by a handsome waiter in skimpy G-strings leh.... how ah ?

Please lah goofy, wake up already. But then again .. I think you don't want to stop this dream right ?

Is she the kind of girl you'd probably never get to bag under normal circumstances ? Probably so, rebounds are scavengers that way.

OK lah. I leave you be.

When she finally dumps you for her prince charming liao, don't come a cryin OK ? Good.

JonJon92 SG

Girls Only When they really love u they CARE about your feelings, Since she dun WANT to let go Of her Past , U must let go of her , Or u Suffer .

Genie99a SG

hi guys, i am having some problems.

when i was just with my gf, she was very nice, giving me lots of attention.

now we have been together for a few months (more than 6 months) and she said i am too sticky and she often takes me for granted.

she also like to take my stuff (hp, wallet etc) to have a look but yet when i asked and take her hp to look, she is very angry and snatches it back and said that i am checking up on her.

can anyone tell me whats wrong nowadays?

she got used to you and as a result does not bother to keep up an image to impress anymore..... in a 1 liner.... honeymoon period is over.

Option 1 ...honeymoon period over le... dispose and find another one to go over the honeymoon period again.

Option 2 ...try for a serious relationship and stand up for what you think is right (in this case i think u r right.... she is just possesive, intrudes on yer privacy fullfil her possesive need and still wants her privacy).

Option 2 has 2 results.

Result 1 ...every argument she always win even though u noe u r right. If u still want to continue the relationship b rdy to b luffed at by yer peers.

Result 2 ...after a period of fights... for some ppl takes years .... some ppl faster.... u will reach plateau in which case she starts to resemble a guy friend... and if u enjoy that friendship go get married.

Result 2 is also the reason behind this saying...."beside every drop dead gorgeous woman is a very bored guy"

Kind Regards

Genie

goofyzell SG

Oh.. so you are her love doctor lor. Without you she would have died right ?

Please lor, how many boyfriends before you ? Did she die ? No right?

Today , she is still alive to torture you.

Girls went through bad breakups .. many times in our life, do we die ? No, every breakups puts us closer to the right guy.

We adapt and learn. Not as weak as you think dude.

She tell everyone is fear ah.. then don't get into relationship lor. Simple wat.

I also fear drowning wor.. but I love floating in big swimming pool with my pina colada served by a handsome waiter in skimpy G-strings leh.... how ah ?

Please lah goofy, wake up already. But then again .. I think you don't want to stop this dream right ?

Is she the kind of girl you'd probably never get to bag under normal circumstances ? Probably so, rebounds are scavengers that way.

OK lah. I leave you be.

When she finally dumps you for her prince charming liao, don't come a cryin OK ? Good.

Sorry lor... my gf is one example of such "weak" person.

She said she thinks she loves to be alone. I told her to stop lying. If she loves to be alone she wont have a bf. She kept quiet.

soleachip SG

zzz...

this reminds of a saying by Papa, "forget your personal tragedy, we're all bitched from the start. when you get the damned hurt, use it, don't cheat with it."

goofyzell SG

she got used to you and as a result does not bother to keep up an image to impress anymore..... in a 1 liner.... honeymoon period is over.

Option 1 ...honeymoon period over le... dispose and find another one to go over the honeymoon period again.

Option 2 has 2 results.

Result 1 ...every argument she always win even though u noe u r right. If u still want to continue the relationship b rdy to b luffed at by yer peers.

Result 2 is also the reason behind this saying...."beside every drop dead gorgeous woman is a very bored guy"

Kind Regards

Genie

I chose option 2.

I will talk to her if I feel I am right. Wont let her win all the time.

TTFU SG

Sometimes being a man, you need to have some power, give in to her too much, she climb up and pee on your head. In the end she dont treat you serious cause you give in too much.

insidestory SG

She's showing her true colours (this is her true self) and letting her guard down because she's gotten comfortable with you in the relationship. This is what happens to many girls. From what you say, she is clearly very desperate to get married, since she's always looking at the HDB website and wanting to apply for one.

Get your power back and tell you in no uncertain terms that you will not marry her until she bucks up and wake up her idea.

goofyzell SG

now we are having another problem.

We used to make out quite often. Most of the time(up to 90%) she is the one who initiate it. Now she changed a job and is quite stressed so she dun have the needs anymore.

She feels that I am pressurising her into doing it, thinks that I am with her for the sex, which is not true.If she is not in the mood, we will pass. Sometimes up to 3 weeks in a go. I have not pressurised her but I have told her that she needs to relax once she knocks off. She can get so stressed that she cant sleep every night. It is affecting her daily live as well.

Cos of the frequency issue, we have been having arguements after it... In fact she is the one who gets worked up and start talking about this topic and start to quarrel.

TTFU SG

now we are having another problem.

We used to make out quite often. Most of the time(up to 90%) she is the one who initiate it. Now she changed a job and is quite stressed so she dun have the needs anymore.

Cos of the frequency issue, we have been having arguements after it... In fact she is the one who gets worked up and start talking about this topic and start to quarrel.

So many problems again, you not sian, i see liao also sian. Postive advice is calm her down, chat with her if she cant sleep in the night, sweet talk her more, make her feel at ease. Negative advice to you will be, get a new gf.

goofyzell SG

I am also sianz...

I tried alot le. Have been very patience with her also. Still think its her new job that makes her like that. She was in a horrible job also but its not stressful. Just that she got horrible colleagues.

In this new job, she can easily work until 8 to 10 pm daily and yet cannot manage to clear half her work.

I will not consider leaving her.

TTFU SG

Thats like 14 hours...... more busy than the president.... really no life.....

goofyzell SG

Thats like 14 hours...... more busy than the president.... really no life.....

ya... i think its her job that makes her so stressed up now...

Typically SG

Lack of trust I suppose ?

Well on my side , She does really get hot and cold at times .

Sometimes , It's just so hard to understand what's going on inside her mind .

TTFU SG

same same lah read finish these 8 pages then decide loh

goofyzell SG

Ya...

TO Typically: read my post then you decide ba. I am really going through alot of pain. Yet at the same time can feel her love and care at the same time. Often blowing hot and cold from her.

1 moment she talk about marriage, 1 moment she wanna stay single, next moment wanna look for house, next moment ask me F off. U can take it?

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