Jealous!

Zhangjf7768 SG

Trying to ask a friend out cos not met up for loooong time. But this friend always busy , no time, seem like play 'taichi' with me.

Asked over msn whether want go out on sat, he said have to work, meet deadline....

Then I replied, 'I see, that is a good reason' and logged off.

Not the first time trying to ask him out, I feel as though my skin is damn think loh, he didn't ask me out ever since the last meeting that happened 1 year ago, yes, 1 year ago.

Then I saw he happily chatting in a chatbox with two good female friends. I kind of feel jealous.

What is wrong with me? Pls no romance answers. I don't like him. I have terrible social problems. Please advice me, be true in your replies, I don't mind harsh replies.

luvcfood SG

are u guy or gal ?

how close are you and him before ?

Genie99a SG

Trying to ask a friend out cos not met up for loooong time. But this friend always busy , no time, seem like play 'taichi' with me.

Asked over msn whether want go out on sat, he said have to work, meet deadline....

Then I replied, 'I see, that is a good reason' and logged off.

Not the first time trying to ask him out, I feel as though my skin is damn think loh, he didn't ask me out ever since the last meeting that happened 1 year ago, yes, 1 year ago.

Then I saw he happily chatting in a chatbox with two good female friends. I kind of feel jealous.

What is wrong with me? Pls no romance answers. I don't like him. I have terrible social problems. Please advice me, be true in your replies, I don't mind harsh replies.

Nothing is wrong with you. He just has better things to do then spend a day meeting you to catch up.

If he feels your friendship is worth that.... why don't you put more effort on the friends that actually value your friendship?

Kind Regards

Genie

FireIce SG

u can just accept the fact tt he does not want to go out with u.

wats so difficult abt acknowledging it?

Zhangjf7768 SG

Hi, just an update.

He raked up some unhappy past about how I scolded him online and in his blog's tag and admitted he was uncomfortable meeting up with me.

I told him via msn that he 'banned' me out of his blog when I played around with the tag. ('played around' in this context is putting in different nicks and start talking to myself) which he claimed he didn't understand why I did that and that he 'kicked' me out was becuase his other friend claimed I quarreled with her.

I sort of argue that if I were a nusisance he can give me warning to stop but not based on his friend's 'report' to him and he checked my computer IP and kicked me out of the blog.

I admit I was cheeky playing with the tag but I didn't even insulted his friends who also will use the tag to chat. I admit I was not right either.

But afterwhich came a number of 'scoldings', even insults from his friend who defended him when I left messages in his blog 'scolding' him for not treating me as his friend.

Then today, he raked up the past. I though I had put behind all these. But the arguments got heated up as I find that he claimed I had hurt him. Then he said I still don't understand where I went wrong.

Nevertheless, I know I was not entirely wrong, I still apologise and said all faults with me.

Then he said,' don't want me to feel all wrong lah'....

Then I kept apologising said I was wrong to do this and that and then he said 'this is difficult, we can't be friends anymore'.

Then I asked, what he wants? Scold already scold lioa, shoot already shoot liao, I also apologise many times liao, what he wants?

How he wants me to type?

Any clear sighted ppl out here can advice me?

I don't know whether to laugh or feel sad. This guy petty not gracious enough? I am a girl lei..... but I am more flexible than him. I don't mind apologising and move on but he keep harping on how I hurt him.

Zhangjf7768 SG

u can just accept the fact tt he does not want to go out with u.

wats so difficult abt acknowledging it?

Cos he kept giving me the wrong impression that I can ask him out like normal friends loh. I didn't know he has this uncomfortable feeling until he admitted.

gunner77 SG

u guy or girl ?!

ChoCoChips SG

Hi, just an update.

He raked up some unhappy past about how I scolded him online and in his blog's tag and admitted he was uncomfortable meeting up with me.

I sort of argue that if I were a nusisance he can give me warning to stop but not based on his friend's 'report' to him and he checked my computer IP and kicked me out of the blog.

I admit I was cheeky playing with the tag but I didn't even insulted his friends who also will use the tag to chat. I admit I was not right either.

But afterwhich came a number of 'scoldings', even insults from his friend who defended him when I left messages in his blog 'scolding' him for not treating me as his friend.

Nevertheless, I know I was not entirely wrong, I still apologise and said all faults with me.

Then he said,' don't want me to feel all wrong lah'....

Then I kept apologising said I was wrong to do this and that and then he said 'this is difficult, we can't be friends anymore'.

Then I asked, what he wants? Scold already scold lioa, shoot already shoot liao, I also apologise many times liao, what he wants?

How he wants me to type?

Any clear sighted ppl out here can advice me?

u took the first step and apologised.

so it's up to him whether hes willing to put the incident behind him.

and clearly hes not willing to let it go.

so i suggest that u let this go as well.

theres only so much u can do.

and,

u damn bo liao.

very fun meh!

to be posing as other people and talk to him.

TTFU SG

Sometimes when you meet a wall, you just got to tell yourself, detour and go pass the wall. Going straight and banging your head on it wont help. Since in this case, you already did your best, you said 'sorry'. Apparently this guy is petty and refuses to let go of this incident.

Anyway let it go, let it dillute, find other male friends elsewhere. Good luck

littlemissbonkers SG

Everyone has a tipping point...once they are over this tipping point, nothing will be the same anymore.

Maybe this guy is easily offended and just not mature enough.

So move on and find a better friend.

But then again...you may have to do some self reflection...

Why is it that you have so many problems with friends? (ur previous posts)

If it's because of your lack of EQ and social skills, then maybe it's time for you to do something about it.

Chester_Lim SG

Hi, just an update.

He raked up some unhappy past about how I scolded him online and in his blog's tag and admitted he was uncomfortable meeting up with me.

I sort of argue that if I were a nusisance he can give me warning to stop but not based on his friend's 'report' to him and he checked my computer IP and kicked me out of the blog.

I admit I was cheeky playing with the tag but I didn't even insulted his friends who also will use the tag to chat. I admit I was not right either.

But afterwhich came a number of 'scoldings', even insults from his friend who defended him when I left messages in his blog 'scolding' him for not treating me as his friend.

Nevertheless, I know I was not entirely wrong, I still apologise and said all faults with me.

Then he said,' don't want me to feel all wrong lah'....

Then I kept apologising said I was wrong to do this and that and then he said 'this is difficult, we can't be friends anymore'.

Then I asked, what he wants? Scold already scold lioa, shoot already shoot liao, I also apologise many times liao, what he wants?

How he wants me to type?

Any clear sighted ppl out here can advice me?

dump him and chose me to be your bf

FireIce SG

are u pri 5?

Bio-Hawk SG

He dnt like u.End of it.Why stalk and disturb him?.Get and life!!!!!

dangerboi SG

immature

likeyou SG

I am sure you have lots of friends right?

If he dont want to be your friends, by all means.

You wont die if he dont friend you right?

You still hv your life to carry on. Why care so much on him?

Move on.

troublemaker2005 SG

I think you shortage of friends. People like me most scare know you this type of people. No not friends. not yet. acquitance i call it. Sticky and makes a big deal out of thin air.

Zhangjf7768 SG

u took the first step and apologised.

so it's up to him whether hes willing to put the incident behind him.

and clearly hes not willing to let it go.

so i suggest that u let this go as well.

theres only so much u can do.

and,

u damn bo liao.

very fun meh!

to be posing as other people and talk to him.

I didn't pose other ppl to talk to him. I pose as different nicks and play around in the tag actually talking to myself that is all.

Zhangjf7768 SG

I think you shortage of friends. People like me most scare know you this type of people. No not friends. not yet. acquitance i call it. Sticky and makes a big deal out of thin air.

erm.... I have put down the past. He is the one raking up the past. So who is making a big deal ?

Zhangjf7768 SG

Everyone has a tipping point...once they are over this tipping point, nothing will be the same anymore.

Maybe this guy is easily offended and just not mature enough.

So move on and find a better friend.

But then again...you may have to do some self reflection...

Why is it that you have so many problems with friends? (ur previous posts)

If it's because of your lack of EQ and social skills, then maybe it's time for you to do something about it.

Sigh.... Never think guys can bear a grudge when someone hurt his ego.

So , never hurt a guy's ego if he is MCP I would say.

troublemaker2005 SG

erm.... I have put down the past. He is the one raking up the past. So who is making a big deal ?

no need to reply. also don't go and bother him or her anymore.

people don;t like you still want to reason with him. only serve to irritate people more.

its can trolling, and if allow to escalate to a higher level you can be sued for harrassement. there is no need for you to force people to change their opinions about you, nor a good addvise for you to keep bothering people when signals already very clear their don;t want to socialize with you.

willl you want to associate with a person who nonly mix around with pretty gals, or may be not pretty people but ugly people with no substance and shallow as the oil spills at east coast park?