Trying to ask a friend out cos not met up for loooong time. But
this friend always busy , no time, seem like play 'taichi' with
me.
Asked over msn whether want go out on sat, he said have to work,
meet deadline....
Then I replied, 'I see, that is a good reason' and logged
off.
Not the first time trying to ask him out, I feel as though my
skin is damn think loh, he didn't ask me out ever since the
last meeting that happened 1 year ago, yes, 1 year ago.
Then I saw he happily chatting in a chatbox with two good female
friends. I kind of feel jealous.
What is wrong with me? Pls no romance answers. I don't like him.
I have terrible social problems. Please advice me, be true in your
replies, I don't mind harsh replies.
Hi,
I got fren also very similar to yours.But I pretend to like him.
He is very arrogant.
Last time, he was heartbroken when his girlfriend abandon him.
So I was the person who be a friend and advice him.
But now, he is very unfriendly. He has a new girlfriend and a
new job. When I ask him out,he makes a lot of excuses. One time,
when he finally relented and came out, he even attempted to spite
me by telling me that he's coming late.
And then when he came one hour later, made me waited for him for
one hour. He told me that he went to gym first. What a jerk. I told
him off. But he said that he would have been late anyway because of
the rain.
So we went yam cha. I ask him what is his problem. He gave me a
lot of excuses. He tell me he now live with his gf in their new
Condo. He say that he is too busy bcause he has to shop for grocery
and cook for her. I ask him, hey i call you out for yam cha once in
2 months, you also too busy to come out? Some more he don't have
kids. Why is he so busy? Now he got gf and very good stable job, he
side step friend like me.
He kept on with his excuses. I have a friend who have two kids
and every weekdays his company flies him to Malaysia to work. Yet,
he still got time to yam cha with me every forthnight.
So I thought that this friend must have been a jerk. I recall he
quit his job 3 years ago and went on to become a financial or
wealth planner. His business wasn't successful. Because he didn't
have enough clients. So I guess he must have blamed me being one of
his friends who didn't buy his policies.
Good! At least I know what kind of true friend he is. He also
managed to find out about my salary from another friend, when I
accidentaly applied to one of my other friend's company. So last
time, he tried to mock me about my salary. Before he quit his
so-called prestigous job, he tried to mock me by telling me that he
got offered by a weath planner company to work part time as an
administrator with the same salary as mine and he had the
opportunity to go freelance and sell his policies as well. Then
coincidentaly he quoted the salary same as mine, and he said it was
very low. He said that to try to offend me. I know he did so
because I know that there is no way, anybody can get my exact
figure, my salary was SGD -,377.00 I am omitting the
thousands. If he can say the last three digits as 377 then
something is not right.
What a jerk. But I call him out even though he refuses to pick
up my calls and made a lot of excuses not to meet me. But I still
call him. Why? Because I want to tell other people, that I am not
so easily shoo off. He thinks he can get away with his rudeness? I
gather all the evidence how bad he treat me and how bad he was rude
to me. So, I tell everyone about his arrogant behaviour. I call him
not because i like him and I know he is not interested in peace but
to make a mockery out of me. I do so, because I take the challenge.
I know I will meet a lot of this kind of people outside. So, I want
to learn how to handle them. To make me a better person next time.
Also, I am very generous person. My other friends call me out, I
never say no. because I don't want to be like this friend. God will
vindicate us one day. I am very sure, god would punish friends who
don't appreciate friendship.