After the party, a few of my friends and myself went to a
park for drinks and I asked my wife along because I felt that
she was feeling down at that time and I wanted to cheer her up. On
my actual brithday, my wife asked me out for a movie and I agreed
and of course, she wished me a happy birthday. From there on, I
started to look at my wife in a different way, and we started
dating each other. I like my wife for her intelligence, her common
interest with me and similar views on many aspects of life. So
stewardess girl was out of the picture and I eventually marry my
wife at the age of 27.
Now on to the sexuality part.. My wife was a virgin, I was her
first sexual partner but it was not easy. It took several tries
before I was able to have intercourse with her as she was feeling
great pains as I try to penetrate. At that point, I knew that my
wife requires encouragement in-order to have sex as she feels more
pain that pleasure out of it. In our first few years of
relationship, the frequnecy of our sex is about 2 times a month
which I feel is not a good frequency. Then, something happened..
she got pregnant. Both of us made a decisive decision to abort it
during her first few weeks of pregnancy as both of us are not ready
for a child at that time. (You can call me names if you want,
perhaps I deserve it) That was the turning point of our sexual
life, it turned for the worst. After abortion, we did not have sex
for a year.. not even petting. Prior to getting married we did have
sex once in 6 months although we could not complete the full
intercourse as she was experiencing discomfort. During our trip to
Japan, we did not have sex either. A few months before our
marriage, I had a talk with her about our sexual relationship and
asked her about the possible reasons of the pain. She said that it
is probably because she was scared to get pregnant again. I tried
to help her by introducing a vibrator, game and lubricant but to no
avail. I also managed to persuade her to visit the gynae to check
if there is anything wrong with her vagina, there wasn't. Anyway, I
still love my wife despite her seemingly asexual behavior and
decided to marry her thinking that perhpas after marriage things
will get better for us.
Well, things did not get better. During the few days in our
hotel after the wedding dinner, we did not have sex at all.
Whenever I try to touch her intimately, she would be irritated and
reject me.
I think I'm a person with high libido,
I really doubt if you have high libido.If that was the case u
would have been cheating on her by now. Why do u miss the obvious
picture in here?Wife asks u out on ur B-day, then doesn't like sex
but gets preg ,irritated when you touch? Let me tell you, she
married you for other reasons and ther's sm one else.Wake
up!!!
