Try to handle your libido discreetly, so that she wont be
stressed by it. Because being sexy and desired is a built in need
in women. Do not pressure her or anything. Be supportive.
Treat her as your date. Bring her out, have fun, relax. Do crazy
things. Get her mind away from work-related stress or anything
whatsoever. Make her remember why she married you, and re-ignite
her dream of a bright future with you. Sometimes treat her like a
kid and pamper her abit.
Send her surprise presents. When she ask why just give stupid
reasons like, "I was daydreaming about the times we spent together,
yada yada" Send to her office too (so that her colleagues will
become green and she will be flattered). Give her kisses out of
nowhere, play with her hands, her hair. Learn to listen to her.
Show a willingness to take on her problems.
Reassure her!! This is very impt. Some girls are naturally
insecure. tell her she looks nice, she have good taste, she is the
best. Basically powder her butt. Cos she got issues with her
sexuality(i.e. scars) She might be afraid of sex cos of the
conditions you mentioned
Do not force yourself on her, threaten her or whatsoever. Just
release your stored up cells in the bathroom. Slowly get her in the
mood. If she rejects your advances, just kiss her in the forehead
and massage her (if she likes). sayang her abit. Sooner or later
you will get what you want (hopefully). Since by doing so, you
throw the ball into her court. She might start questioning is she
failing in doing her part in the maintenance of the r/s. Who knows
after she warmed up in this way that everything will be fine
Remember dates!!! cos the general perception is guys bo chap. So
sure can score brownie points.
Show optimism in the r/s. Cos gt abortion, den got some other
problems.
And very impt, enable her dreams! This is where understanding of
her becomes important. Be it childhood dreams, future dreams,
daydreams, fairytale dreams. Dun need to succeed la, just try try,
in maths you score points for working, with women you score points
for trying
agar agar like that la. Dunno will work anot. Just thinking
about what girls want nia LOL
