If your close friend is also a good friend with your enemy

multipleviews SG

Don't worry, I'm not upset or angry or sad or depress. I'm feeling at peace with myself in my own heart, and I felt happy if I couldn't wake up tomorrow and in the future.

I know where I will be and it's not that scary at all.

I really hope I can die young when I'm beautiful and happy.

Sometimes I wished I am the heroine of the tragic drama when I will die young and beautiful in the end....hehehehehe.

so poetic ar.. dun be so sad la.. if u rly knows tat u wont be waking up tomorrow and on the last night u need ppl to accompany u just PM me okay?

haha. I make sure after the night u pray u wont leave the world forever so as to enjoy all the funs.. lol.. just joking la..

jojobeach SG

What do you feel?

What will you do?

What can you do?

Why must people be so selfish because they wanted the best of both worlds by being my friend and the friend of my enemy?

I don't really know how to accept it.....quite upset about it since 2 days ago.

Can someone help me please?

What happened that made the person your enemy back then ?

If it's just a no big deal, it's not likely your best friend see it reason enough to also "hate" your enemy.

Whatever that "enemy" did to you, she didn't do it to your best friend. Why?

If your best friend is able to make a friend out of your enemy, then obviously, that enemy wasn't that "bad" afterall.

Perhaps between you and your "enemy" is just a misunderstanding. Its up to you to resolve this conflict once and for all.

Rooney9 SG

I pity her friend more, caught between a fire. and now she wants her friend to side her? shakes head.

parn SG

What happened that made the person your enemy back then ?

If it's just a no big deal, it's not likely your best friend see it reason enough to also "hate" your enemy.

Whatever that "enemy" did to you, she didn't do it to your best friend. Why?

If your best friend is able to make a friend out of your enemy, then obviously, that enemy wasn't that "bad" afterall.

Perhaps between you and your "enemy" is just a misunderstanding. Its up to you to resolve this conflict once and for all.

A guy want to know me, enemy likes the guy. I'm only normal friend with the guy. Enemy spread rumours about me to guy. Guy got brainwashed by enemy. Enemy became guy's girlfriend. My close friend and I used to be friends with enemy and the guy. Guy and enemy stopped becoming my friend. My close friend tried asking enemy and guy why they do such a thing to me, enemy and guy don't want to tell my close friend.

So is this a misunderstanding? Should I be the person who is begging to resolve this conflict when I'm the victim?

Good for you if you had never been in such situation before.

But please advise me how did you handle it if you were in such situation in the past.

ChoCoChips SG

So is this a misunderstanding? Should I be the person who is begging to resolve this conflict when I'm the victim?

Good for you if you had never been in such situation before.

But please advise me how did you handle it if you were in such situation in the past.

i say fk em.

u know 他们的水准alr

the guy oni has this much substance in him

dont nid care about them anymore.

as for ur fren

u know she's on ur side one la.

so hor

i'd say u no nid do anything.

u have done nth wrong.

jojobeach SG

So is this a misunderstanding? Should I be the person who is begging to resolve this conflict when I'm the victim?

Good for you if you had never been in such situation before.

But please advise me how did you handle it if you were in such situation in the past.

Well Parn, I've been through much of this kind of situations.

I have lots of guy friends. Many girls find me a threat. That's why I prefer to keep a few good girl friends by my side who don't share the same taste for guys as me.

That gal sees you as a threat. And she is insecure, perhaps because of your great beauty or charisma ( just an assumption).

You are not a victim. In fact you are the benefactor of your 'enemy's" jealousy towards you. A gullible guy best suits a manipulative gal, give them your blessings.

As for your "best" friend, downgrade her to become your "insider" friend.

The best revenge is to live a better happier life. This "insider" gal friend of yours can be your bearer of news. Perhaps she enjoys being a double agent.. is she a gossipy type?

Best friends comes and goes, you should be keeping more than one social circle. Never put your eggs in one basket.

To trust a friend or not, depends not on how loyal she is to you, rather it's her personality/integrity that counts.

Play well my fwen.

kengkia SG

I didn't say I need my friends to stay far far away from my enemies. Kitty is the one who said that and I don't expect that to happen.

I would like my friend to help both me and my enemy to resolve and clear up any misunderstandings between us.

How come your world is so violent one......like parn like that......

???????

elindra SG

It's not selfish at all, since they are my friends then I expect them to stand by me as I am expected to stand by them in times of need.

If you don't expect your friends to stand by you but you don't mind to stand by them. Then congratulations, cos you might be going to Heaven when you die because you can use this act of selflessness to argue your way into Heaven...probably.

Maybe you don't really have friends who would stand by you in times of need, that's why you think it's not important.

But that would be really sad and I will feel really sorry for you.

Yes I'm right, you're selfish

It's as good as asking your friend to take sides

They can be your friend and stand by you for support, but that doesn't mean they should avoid their other friend who is your enemy so to speak

What you are saying is if they are your friend, they shouldn't be friends with the other person you don't like.

I think I most probably have more friends who will stand by me than you do

TERMINATOR4000 SG

u want to fight n die over someone???..................thinks everyone should go down and have a plate of nice pepper crabs wiv rice......even cold crabs from shing shiong taste good.

one yer tummy is satisfied.....ya dun need to fight n kill yerself.

TTFU SG

So is this a misunderstanding? Should I be the person who is begging to resolve this conflict when I'm the victim?

Good for you if you had never been in such situation before.

But please advise me how did you handle it if you were in such situation in the past.

The Enemy really a bitch. No reason to clear the misunderstanding, since she is the one who started all this crap first. Backstabbing people in the back really. And as for your friend. Make it clear to her that you dont like this enemy, however it is fact that you cant stop her from making friends with your enemy, since your enemy did not betray/ bitch your friend in some sorrt.

If your friend is really a friend, then i guess she will avoid her when she is with you or something. Caring about your feelings, if no, then dump this friend into the dustbin

parn SG

Yes I'm right, you're selfish

It's as good as asking your friend to take sides

They can be your friend and stand by you for support, but that doesn't mean they should avoid their other friend who is your enemy so to speak

What you are saying is if they are your friend, they shouldn't be friends with the other person you don't like.

I think I most probably have more friends who will stand by me than you do

No you're wrong, it's not selfish if you have read my later posts.

Don't feel bad about it, I also wished I could agree with you.

ないわらい SG

It's not selfish at all, since they are my friends then I expect them to stand by me as I am expected to stand by them in times of need.

Maybe you don't really have friends who would stand by you in times of need, that's why you think it's not important.

But that would be really sad and I will feel really sorry for you.

Au contraire.

It is highly selfish of you to expect your friend to take sides. While I still stick by saying that real friends care about each other's feelings, real friends don't take advantage of each other and respect the fact that their friends are individuals of their own.

You still don't understand why people here have lambasted you for being selfish. I don't mean to flame you, but you have consistently failed, throughout the whole course of this thread, to be rational and pragmatic about the whole situation. You think that friendship entails the obligation by one party to support another party regardless of the situation.

Put yourself in your friend's shoes for a moment and stop thinking about your own needs. If you were your friend who has no bad blood between Enemy and you (let's call you OP) and are forced to give up or compromise the friendship with the enemy just because OP has bad blood with said enemy, then what about your own rights and freedom of choice?

Don't you see that by childishly and selfishly demanding that your friends understand you to support you (regardless of anything) "because that's what friends should do", then I'm sorry to say that you, young lady (or gentleman), are terribly naive and deluded.

You are too blinded by your selfish, superior sense of twisted loyalty that you have failed to realize the injustice of your actions. Before you even judge your friends... have you taken it upon yourself to judge your own character?

In case you're not aware, there are actually people in the world who don't take sides out of loyalty. I myself have fallen out of friendship with many people, and still have friends who are friends with those I have fallen out of friendship with. While I am aware that it is to my disadvantage because I am only one person and the people I have fallen out with are aplenty, I cannot possibly force my remaining friends to take sides with me and abandon friendship with the other friends just because I need more people on my side. I have to respect them as individuals- on top of that, I have faith in them that they will not betray me for the other party, and that they will act in accordance with a mutually-beneficial, just manner when it comes to dealing with both sides. And for me, I am happy with such friends. I don't care if they are friends with the enemy, as long as the enemy is mature and doesn't play dirty, I won't resort to harmful or selfish methods to guard my existence and friendships. In a nutshell, I trust and love my friends. Do you?

And that is why I said to you earlier- if you don't have enough faith in your current friends, then unfriend them. You also mentioned that your so called friends don't want to care to help ameliorate the situation, and that makes it even more logical for you to drop them. If they are true friends, they will care about your feelings and try to work together to a compromise. That doesn't necessarily mean that they have to give up their rights and freedom to friendship with anyone else, though, just so you know. If you still insist on having friends to do that FOR you... then I think people like them are better off without you, and you, better off without people like them. You can also take this opportunity to find your own circle of like-minded people and you guys can go selfishly support each other in vain and blind loyalty.

If not, take this as friendly advice from someone who will predict your downfall should you continue to approach other people with such a selfish mindset.