I don't think my wife is bonking someone else. I think she
is infatuated with the other guy. He is married, good
looking, got lots of properties, drives a fancy car and he is a
smooth talker.
firstly .... something doesn't compute
you said your wifey was making in 10+ a month ....and that you
were making 120-130k a year .... doesn't that come up to about the
same ? .... granted, it's unlikely your bonus will exceed your
drawn salary in the goverment service unless you were a minister,
there's still the PB. Have you been doing well enough to get those,
or have you been coasting along in your job ?
And secondly, you're in IT, with the influx of an nehs and ah
tiongs into IT, or any other fields for that matter, don't expect
to make one twenty a year in a private sector job unless your
papers' something special.
You are making more than one hundred thousand a year, that makes
your iron rice bowl a pretty gilded one, I suggest you stick to it.
The odds are against your wifey succeeding as a property agent.
Singapore is so overrun with property agents and insurance agents
etc that chances are, everyone knows at least 3 of each. So you'll
be the top dog soon enough again.
Next, if that's the way your wifey treats you, then I would say
your wifey's the one wearing the pants in the relationship. And if
this is a recent behaviourial change, either your wifey's lost her
respect for you as a man, or, she is definitely bonking someone
else.
Either way you got to man up. No matter how domineering or
aggressive a woman is, deep down, they are all looking for a man
strong enough for them to submit to. It's really not about the
amount of money you rake in, or how slick or handsome you are. You
just got to make them feel like a woman, and make them think like
you're a real man, instead of a meek, submissive, spineless fellow.
remember, you're the one with the penis here. It doesn't take
another man to destroy a relationship, all it takes is for the
woman to stop thinking of you as a man.
Lastly, if you think your wifey's not doing anything
extra-marital, then, it's your funeral. I would say the danger
signs are all there, trips overseas without you, late night
socializing, and it's apparent that she's been yakking enough to
you about the other chap that you know all the details about him.
At the very least, don't you think you should find things
out, instead of burying your head in the sand ? this is not
the time for a civil servant mentality here ....