Hello ppl,
Appreciate if you could give me some advice. I apologize for the
lengthy post. Let me give info about myself. I am a guy, 24 this
year. Studying accountancy at NTU (year 1).
I am facing some issues that its affecting me. And I dont want
these issues to affect me this semester.
On Studies
My previous semester results was bad. I only got a 3/5 gpa.
Previously, people commented that I am so old, shouldnt be in year
one. At 24, I should be in year 3 now. It just make me feel like I
am not fit to be a NBS undergrad.
I have problems with project groupmates too. Though they do
contribute in project work, I am not close with them. Its like I
will only meet them for work only. One of the member is in fact
kinda lazy. Always handing in her part at the last minute. I am
thinking of changing group mates this sem. Should I?
I really want to improve my results. What should I do? But the
problem by spending so much time in studying I will scarifice so
much other thngs in life..
On R/S
These days I am seeing more and more real-life friends and
friends on facebook getting attached. The more I see the more I
question myself. "Why never make an attempt to get to know the girl
better? Look.. now she is attached". "Look the girl that was
interested in you but you turn her away in sec sch. Happily
attached and so pretty now".
I will think to myself.. "I am 24. You think you are still
young? Why am I still single? Why arent you getting to know more
girls and chase the girls that you like? Why 24 already and dont
even have the experience of being in a r/s"
The problem is that my social circle is really small. And I do
not know how to interact well with females. Also, I am quiet and
boring. Everyday after lessons I will just head back to hall. I am
just bad with girls.
Actually I would like to join CCAs and know more people, but
because of my weak academic abilities, I did not join. I always
tell myself that "I want to score better, dont get a gf now and let
it affect you. Dont be selfish, you dont have time for her" But
isnt that just an excuse? Because I can at most talk to her for a
while each day on the phone and meetup once a week.
How do I get to know more females other than through CCAs?
Because of all these issues, thought not big, it sort of make me
kinda a depressive person. I want my life to change. I want to
change for the better. But what should I do?
Don't apologise, you are here to seek help.
On project work, it is like that one. There are bound to be
riders and hard-workers. If you aim to be at the top, than you will
have to work beyond your scope and limit. Do everything you can do,
not just everything you are assigned to do. No matter how you swap,
there is bound to be a rider or two in your group, or those who
think that doing the minimum is good enough.
And I will tell you that it is unavoidable that a lot of
things have to be given up. I use to game a lot, watch animes,
watch mangas, give tuition, do charity work, but now I have given
out almost of all these, except watching the one piece manga which
comes out each week. :P However, even with all these "sacrifices",
I am not top of my cohort ( I am a 1st year like you, I study in
NIE though. ).
On relationship, let me tell you this, getting a girlfriend will
likely have a negative impact on your results. Sure, there are some
people out there who can balance it out, but for most of us, if we
want to be at the very top, we cannot devote much time into
relationship issues. And please, do not get a gf for the sake of
getting one, go after one ONLY AFTER you have find someone who you
are actually interested in.