Hello ppl,
Appreciate if you could give me some advice. I apologize for the
lengthy post. Let me give info about myself. I am a guy, 24 this
year. Studying accountancy at NTU (year 1).
I am facing some issues that its affecting me. And I dont want
these issues to affect me this semester.
On Studies
My previous semester results was bad. I only got a 3/5 gpa.
Previously, people commented that I am so old, shouldnt be in year
one. At 24, I should be in year 3 now. It just make me feel like I
am not fit to be a NBS undergrad.
I have problems with project groupmates too. Though they do
contribute in project work, I am not close with them. Its like I
will only meet them for work only. One of the member is in fact
kinda lazy. Always handing in her part at the last minute. I am
thinking of changing group mates this sem. Should I?
I really want to improve my results. What should I do? But the
problem by spending so much time in studying I will scarifice so
much other thngs in life..
On R/S
These days I am seeing more and more real-life friends and
friends on facebook getting attached. The more I see the more I
question myself. "Why never make an attempt to get to know the girl
better? Look.. now she is attached". "Look the girl that was
interested in you but you turn her away in sec sch. Happily
attached and so pretty now".
I will think to myself.. "I am 24. You think you are still
young? Why am I still single? Why arent you getting to know more
girls and chase the girls that you like? Why 24 already and dont
even have the experience of being in a r/s"
The problem is that my social circle is really small. And I do
not know how to interact well with females. Also, I am quiet and
boring. Everyday after lessons I will just head back to hall. I am
just bad with girls.
Actually I would like to join CCAs and know more people, but
because of my weak academic abilities, I did not join. I always
tell myself that "I want to score better, dont get a gf now and let
it affect you. Dont be selfish, you dont have time for her" But
isnt that just an excuse? Because I can at most talk to her for a
while each day on the phone and meetup once a week.
How do I get to know more females other than through CCAs?
Because of all these issues, thought not big, it sort of make me
kinda a depressive person. I want my life to change. I want to
change for the better. But what should I do?
Hi WhatToDo,
Do not fret too much over your results, have faith in yourself,
and tell yourself that if you work harder, your CGPA will improve.
Don't worry too much about your age, the most important thing is
that you are there to learn. On a side note, if I am not wrong,
there are returning teachers in NIE taking their Bachelor's Degree
at the age of 60+.
As for your project work, it is inevitable that there will be
people who put in little or no effort at all. What is most
important is for you to do as much as you could, not just for your
own part, but also for the entire group.
To be honest to you, results do not come easily. You
are competing with other undergraduates, and thus you will
have to put in a lot of effort even if you are only aiming for a
2nd upper honors. You will have to weigh for yourself - Are your
results more important or are those things in your life more
important.
If you truly wish to look for a girlfriend, you can try dating
services / single sessions - Some faculties actually have them from
time to time, though I can't say for yours. However, as many of the
other forummers have kindly pointed out, it is your studies against
getting another half, thus I hope you will make a wise
decision.
Cheers.