I have a friend..I used to treat her like my best friend.
Sometimes I feel that she doesn't appreciate my loyalty to her. I
always help and give her moral support but she never do the same to
me. Instead, she starts to criticise me when things starts to get
better for me. She never support my idea and give me encouragement
whenever I encounter problems in life. I just feel that she is
being very selfish person. I realise I involved in alot of gossips
whenever she is around in a group and affects me to start talking
behind people's back.
All along I havent been very smooth in career prospect due to my
weak personality. I always talk to her and she never advice me much
but just answer me things like "is it..oh no choice bla bla.."
sometimes she even avoided my calls when I need someone to talk
to.
There's once I helped her the whole day for her wedding from
morn till night she never appreciate and say that I did a bad job
for helping. I tried to defend myself and she insist on the
criticism. I was very angry initiatly but I still forgive
her. And recently, because I am going back to school to study
to get better opportunities and partly to find new direction. She
starts to criticise me again. Because of my unsmooth career, she
stab me by saying that I am a failure in life dats why I have
switched my career direction. She say that in a very rude
expression and I felt sad about it. I don't feel like forgiving her
but she keep texting me she show that she is remorse for saying
those stuff. Sometimes I think if she is worth being my friend or
not? Am I wasting my time for friends like her? Am i too mean to
ignore her like that?
Hi snowieyun,
You may treat her like a best friend, but it is likely that she
is treating you as an item. I agreed with Miss Tiny that she is a
shallow person, and I will like to add on that she doesn't see you
as anything more than someone whom she can make use of.
Most importantly, you must realise by now that there is no
friendship between the two of you - The relationship between the
two of you is more akin to that of an user and a tool. You have
chosen to forgive her a few times before, but she doesn't change
even in the slightest, thus it is likely that she will go back to
her old self once you tell her you forgive her.
However, I do not have the right to ask you to leave someone
whom you feel so dear to yourself, but I sincerely hope that you
will make an appropriate choice.
Cheers.
