financial power = freedom
imo, this is the very first of ur concern.
with money u can afford to take care of urself. n take care of
ur girl.
with money ur basic needs r met.
when ur basic needs r met, the emotional n mental stress u're
facing is significantly relieved.
with money u can find ur own roof.
with money u can build a healthy environment for u n ur
girl.
u have to be able to fend for urself before thinking of ur girl
or salvaging broken ties.
u have to be mentally strong before u can mull over the nooks
and crannies of love.
u can't give love unless u have self love.
god, ur siblings, friends n ur husband won't build the life u
seek with u. so u've got to go at it alone. crying n drowning ur
sorrows in alcohol n the internet will not solve anything. only u
have the ability to walk out of this misery. only u possess the
ability to strive for the life u seek. only when u start taking
action in planning ur life, living ur own life, then will things
improve.
happiness is a choice.
many have done it before - survived infidelity, overcame the
odds n raised their children single handedly.
they have, so can u.
since u're allowed to take shelter in ur maiden home, that's the
place to stay for now.
if no one else is willing to take care of ur girl while u work,
then call the numbers n find out more about organizations that
offer child care services for working parents in need of aid.
if u cannot afford a divorce lawyer, just separate for 4 years n
after that u're as good as free (i could be wrong though... try
asking around or going to the legal aid bureau).
ur husband is going to need something more drastic than a jail
term to effect his wake up call.
imo it doesn't look like he can provide proper care to ur girl.
n based on ur posts, he seems like a lousy candidate for father n
husband. when u mentioned, u have no wish for ur girl to grow up in
a broken family... i wonder... is there a point in staying with ur
husband for the sake of raising her in a "complete" family?
wat can an abusive man who cannot get his own act together do
for his daughter n wife? think about the environment she's growing
up in? is it conducive? or is it potentially abusive?
have more faith in ur own ability.
u're not weak n helpless.
n u're not at the mercy of god's doing.
the quality of ur life is in ur hands alone.
