Greetings everyone,
I have been smsing a female friend for 1 year 7 months now.
After she went for a camp and came back, she didn't sms me anymore
except for 1 "Sorry, I'm tired." kind of message. I've been waiting
for 3 days now and sending an average of 5 smses and 2 or 3 calls a
day. Even on MSN or Facebook, I see her online, but no response
from her at all. So, a few questions:
1. I just cried about 2 hours ago because of her not replying
me. Did I unknowingly fall for her?
2. Does she think I'm irritating by smsing and calling her so
many times?
3. There's a couple of new guy names on her blog. She broke up
with her bf about a month ago. Is she like, with one of
them now?
I'm considering sending her a message something like "I'm sorry
if I done anything wrong and thank you for this past 1 year and 7
months". It'll hurt me like [insert choice of vulgar word here] but
I'm sure time will heal. Problem is, it took me 2.5 years to get
over my previous crush. I can't afford this time anymore. Hence my
username. Should I just wait or should I just walk away?
I'm 17, male, not very high self-esteem if it helps. Thanks.
1. You have evidently developed feelings for her, and missed
her, so much that your constant sms may seem to be an irritant than
a concern, espacailly if she is not aware of how much you feel for
her.
2. As you probably had not made known your feelings of love to
her, she is in no way obligated to you, or even to let you know who
or what she is doing in the present moment, except for information
that may deemed necessary on a basis of friendship and not that of
the level of a steady boyfriend.
3. If you treasure this relationship, then it would be better
that you reveal your true feelings for her, in an email, on the
depths of your feelings and how much of a value you can be to her
and she to you, on an emotional level ( not on the commercial or
sexual value please!!!) or find a conducieve pleasant moment to
talk in person if you can communicate well on a personal level with
her.
Dont have to be tomorrow, for you have an eternity to do so, to
develope the relationship further and take it to greater heights of
trust and comfortabiliy you both can rely on each other to call it
a steady relationship and not some superficial possession of each
other.
Then let her respond. It is her choice to make which you MUST
respect. If she reciprocates, then lucky you. But if not, you are
free to remain friends and keep it at the level, respecting her
private life and privacy which is not yours to make demands upon,
and seek another.
4. Never ever use sms to convey heartfelt feelings of love. You
cant possibly squeeze it within 168 spaces if you want her to
understand fully what you are talking about.
Many an sms had destroyed relationships thru misunderstandings
with the limited spaces.
Good Luck, you still have a whole beautiful life ahead of you,
and others await your friendship.
