Mistress

last SG · 2009-10-18T14:56:51+00:00

a PI can gather evidence which a lawyer will use.I mean, an experienced lawyer might have some reliable PI contacts already for such cases, so TS can leave e...

Arapahoe SG

Marrying for money is akin to prostituing oneself, marring for security the same!

I am not sure if that hold truth anymore....

Fugazzi SG

My meaning of prostituting oneself is that of compromising oneself (what one is or wants to be) to stay/enter into a ... cos one gains $$$ or .... security.

What happens when the other (another) can no longer provide $$$$ or security. The 'ends' are no longer there. One is bound to feel sore and cheated cos in the first place one was using the other as a means to his/her end. Hence the conflict(s) and blame game.

As to whether it holds true - it depends on whether one is compromising or reconciling oneself to one's choice of making the means as an end unto itself or making the means an end to ... Being self-honest one would know or one can simply ignore and be ...

jojobeach SG

Read this from US web site....not sure if it is true.......

When I arrived in China for work a year before, with my fiancé, Gregg, in tow, I'd heard about some peculiar local courtship rituals: parents gathering in parks with their children's résumés to orchestrate matches, high-maintenance Shanghainese women openly seeking wealthy foreign men and the designer bags they could provide.

My co-worker from China also told me there's several "Mistress Village", in pockets of China.

Affluent men keeps their young mistresses, much like Feudal China's concubine culture.

Back in those days, rich men are able to provide for their primary family and keep a concubine.

Singaporean men are a disgrace, they want to keep mistress but their primary wife had to suffer for it.

Embarrasing difference between China men and Singaporean men with mistress...

Angrrry.00 SG

TWE : Thanks for your advice. I do know is my own flesh and blood but is it fair keeping the child whereby i dont think i can love the child based on what the father did & will the child blame me during the growing stage that i choose to give brith to him/her.It is not healthy for the child to grow up from a single-parent family,the child will face a lot of pressure as well.

Angrrry.00 SG

True Heart : Thanks for your advice. He admitted everything infront of his parents, my family,counselor and through sms. I also gotten evidence that he was travelling with that woman.

4sg SG

Angrrry.00

Be strong, turn to your family and religion for help and comfort.

What your in-laws have to say about his unfaithfulness? What are their stands?

Angrrry.00 SG

Hi Arapahoe,

I don't know how true is it.

But my husband got more than 1 china mistress.1 based in Sgp & the other in China

TrueHeart SG

Hi Angrrry,

Ultimately it is your own choice as to what you will want to do with your unborn child, but you may want to consider other alternatives such as putting him/her up for adoption instead of aborting him/her.

Cheers.

Angrrry.00 SG

Hi Arapahoe,

He admitted it infront of his parents and my family that he have got more than 1 mistress & have been sleeping around in China while on business trip.

SingaporeMacross SG

TS:

It's your husband's fault, not your child's! Spare your child the agony! Think of the possibilities!

Angrrry.00 SG

Hi Medicated Oil,

He blamed me for my last miscarriage which was my 2nd miscarriage within 4 years. He thinks that i can't bear anymore child for him this lifetime so he started sourcing for another woman after my last miscarriage. He didn't know that i was 4 weeks pregnant when he moved out of the house and i didn't know i was already pregnant as well till i found out a week plus ago.

I don't need his money since he is earning lesser than me.

the Bear SG

then it's time for you to move on....

like aforementioned, google is your friend..

for both lawyers and if you still want, PIs...

good luck.. and may you find happiness in the future..

in the meantime, get him.. and get him bad..

TrueHeart SG

Hi Medicated Oil,

I don't need his money since he is earning lesser than me.

Hi Angrrry,

I do not like pointing fingers at others as a general rule, but he is the one at fault here and he is just using this as an excuse. If he truly wants a child that badly, he could have seek the help of a surrogate mother. Putting that aside, he has more than one affair outside, and that has already proven that he is just being irresponsible and is putting an unjustified blame on you.

Cheers.

P.S. Your story has somehow appeared on the ''Lian He Wan Bao'' newspaper, page 7.

Angrrry.00 SG

Sorry but i dont read Lianhe Wanbao & i don't understand how come it appear there but thanks for informing me about it.

Miscarriage is really a sad thing for a mother to through and yet as a husband he is not there to support mentally but instead of doing such things to me!I really hope that someone could knock some sense to him & give him a wake up call as i am really exhausted physically & mentally by some of his mean sms that he sent over.

fireng SG

Hi Angrrry,

Cheers.

P.S. Your story has somehow appeared on the ''Lian He Wan Bao'' newspaper, page 7.

Maybe you can scan the newspaper article and post it here for us to see?

I wrote so many threads but none of them appeared in the newspaper. So sad

TrueHeart SG

Maybe you can scan the newspaper article and post it here for us to see?

I wrote so many threads but none of them appeared in the newspaper. So sad

Hi fireng,

Here is the article.

http://img32.imageshack.us/img32/7317/scan0001vs.jpg

Cheers.

jojobeach SG

Angrry,

Before you abort the child , please give it a second thought.

After 2 miscarriages, have you consult a fertility doctor ?

If you abort this child now, will you be able to conceive again in future ?

A miscarriage is painful for a mother, it is also very depressing for a father.

Perhaps you are going through natal depression ? 7 week pregnancy means you had sex with him bout 2 months ago .........

Is he claiming he has china mistress just to spite you , perhaps over some unjust words you threw at him ???

Billie Jean SG

Dear Angrry,

I guess you got no choice but to let him go. This is coming from a man, who of course, very much wish that my wife will take me back if i had made a mistake. I even feel that you might be willing to forgive and forget.

Although i had been very tempted, as you can see from my previous post. I want to be with her so much that i even employ the PRC girl PT in my company. We have not gone into any form of serious relationships yet, but i am trying to be as professional as possible in the work relationship, to slow down and put a stop to this.

Anyway, please don’t be angry no more. Since his heart is no longer with you, its best that you move on. Best of luck and you might want to remind your next partner that sharing him is totally unacceptable n will definitely lead to divorce.

Thats what’s my wife said to me some time and so far it has kept me very conscious of potential consequences.

Arapahoe SG

My meaning of prostituting oneself is that of compromising oneself (what one is or wants to be) to stay/enter into a ... cos one gains $$$ or .... security.

You can always speak from a comfort environment but when you step out of your comfort zone you realized that there are indeed people out there have very different opinon of getting themselved out of their social economics suitation. .....so the term prostitution does not necessary applied.

Married became a social human contract. The loving duffy..... marriage the one you love....yours truly vs pulling your own sock and getting what you want.

Arapahoe SG

My co-worker from China also told me there's several "Mistress Village", in pockets of China.

Affluent men keeps their young mistresses, much like Feudal China's concubine culture.

Back in those days, rich men are able to provide for their primary family and keep a concubine.

Singaporean men are a disgrace, they want to keep mistress but their primary wife had to suffer for it.

Embarrasing difference between China men and Singaporean men with mistress...

I come to a conclusion if this one of the culture that they entertained their customers or their vendors entertained their customers....by bringing them to karoke and follow by social escort. It probably became a peer pressured by the vendors or customers to get into the relationship.

That is probably a social issued that Singaporean woman need to bring it up openly in public to address to Singapore companies in China.

The problems with most Singaporean men are not weathy enough to keep a mistress....

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