In court - all claims that u make and state has to be
substantiated with ample
irrefutable proof/evidence and where it is
found lacking - it will simply be ignored.
As for alimony - the court would enforce it - after that it is
for u to chase and chase - this is the reality.
Remember this - custody is for well-being of the child
(children) and not for the 'convenience' of the biological
parent.
Considering the $$$ - seeking a Social worker and legal aid
bureau - slow but at least there is emphathy to your
predicament.
Fuggie,
It is important that all legal rights sought are written down in
black and white.
To forgo these conditions because they seem too "inconvenient"
is a foolish mistake.
Once the legal right is given, to seek it's priviledge or not,
is up to the person holding these rights.
Feelings change, living conditions change.
Don't get caught up a mess later because interests were not
properly protected at the negotiating table.