Thank u all for all your inputs in the previous threat.
Just to update, we went out today n she be starting work at my
place part time from tomorrow onwards.
I accept that there is likely to be no future together with her.
But is there a humane n less painful way for me to cut her off?
I don’t want n cannot possibly ask her to leave, just after
joining. Even if she leave my co, we will still have to see each
other like 2-3 times a week, as she is likely to be my student for
the next 1 year. I teach finance part time.
Shall I just tell her my feeling once n for all n highlight that
we got no future together n see what she say?
I also know that there r some other guys chasing her as I saw
them passing gifts to her, in class.
i believe the best thing to do and the most dignified thing to
do, is to tell no one about ur feelings. suck it up and forget
about this. millions of married men and women go through the same
thing as u did - met someone new and exciting, found themselves in
situations where they could possibly cheat and get away with
it.
attraction between lecturers and students take place all the
time.
but the only difference between them and u is, they do nothing
about it. they make no move for good reasons.
forget the entire matter altogether and devote ur focus and ur
heart to building ur career, raising ur child, being a husband.
at best, the only purpose ur declaration will serve, is buy u a
fleeting encounter with this girl.
at worst, it will cost u ur integrity, business and family.
i may be wrong, but ur dilemma seems geared towards sounding her
out, rather than moving back on track and severing ties.
if u're moving towards that direction, my advice is divorce ur
wife first.
(if u must) a humane way of cutting it off - cancel her
appointment. as a token of goodwill, provide 1 or 2 weeks salary or
have her transferred to another office.
maintain a professional distance from hereonin.
but like what fugazzi mentioned, the root of the problem stems
from ur inner self.
but that's another story.
good luck.
