long distance releationship

last SG · 2009-07-20T12:53:58+00:00

i am not trying to trivalizes the topics of long distance relationship.As a singaporean work oversea yes i tell you it is hard on the relationship for both m...

tofushop193 SG

how to maintain a long distance releationship?it seems like recently we are always fight.so tired.

Forbiddensinner SG

how to maintain a long distance releationship?it seems like recently we are always fight.so tired.

The most important factor in a long-term relationship is commitment.

If the two of you are not committed to each other, small arguments can easily turn into big ones, and eventually ruin your relationship.

Putting that aside, maybe one of you should take a step back. When it comes to relationships, there is rarely right or wrong things, it is just about how each of you look at the same matter.

Positive communication is a must in a long distance relationship, it is the only thing that bridges the two of you together. If you let it breaks down, so will your relationship.

BadzMaro SG

I also dunno.

I doing what i can to keep it together until Nov. lol

Any LDR pros here care to share ? he he

Itedino SG

Either u find him/her, it best to find local.

Fantagf SG

TS, I am afraid to tell you that there is greater possibility for long distance relationship to break up.

Use msn, email, webcam, phone call to maintain.

tofushop193 SG

The most important factor in a long-term relationship is commitment.

If the two of you are not committed to each other, small arguments can easily turn into big ones, and eventually ruin your relationship.

Putting that aside, maybe one of you should take a step back. When it comes to relationships, there is rarely right or wrong things, it is just about how each of you look at the same matter.

Positive communication is a must in a long distance relationship, it is the only thing that bridges the two of you together. If you let it breaks down, so will your relationship.

i have always take a step back.but its only recently we always fight.i dono why but i told her she always stays at home and will easily get irritated.what u mean by positive communication?is calling her everynight means too much cause sometimes there are long slient pause

BadzMaro SG

Urs is fight.. mine always cry ar..

tofushop193 SG

same la fight then later she will cry ma.but now she always fight back.although she know she is wrong sometimes.but now when she know we will fight she will suggest we stop talking for a while and clam down firrst and foget it later

Fantagf SG

Urs is fight.. mine always cry ar..

so cheeee chum

sigh! long distance relationship is so taxing

tofushop193 SG

TS, I am afraid to tell you that there is greater possibility for long distance relationship to break up.

Use msn, email, webcam, phone call to maintain.

i know but somehow i feel like calling each other every night seems too much.and she always do things while i call her.like play game watch tv.then she will not concentrate and always not replying to wat i am talking.i know theres a great possibility but theres always a way to prevent this what.

Fantagf SG

that is a bit strange. IT is normal for gal to pay attention when in contact with bf. do you think she is seeing someone?

Fantagf SG

or she could be plain angry, disappointed with you that is why .

tofushop193 SG

that is a bit strange. IT is normal for gal to pay attention when in contact with bf. do you think she is seeing someone?

this i confirm she is not seeing someone.because this is her habit ever since she went back to her country,everynight i call her she will be doing something and it will mostly be watching tv.

tofushop193 SG

or she could be plain angry, disappointed with you that is why .

ah for wat she angry anf dissapointed with me.hahhaa i nv do anything wrong ma i only ask her to concentrate to talk to me because ytd was the 6th month we are together.and say seriously i seldom will say the word i love u to her unless like on occasion.but ytd since its our 6th month i say it to her and after a long reply i say ''what u doing what i say u nv hear meh.ok la u nv hear i don wan to repeat myself i tired of repeating myself everytime''

Fantagf SG

but sorry, i still wanna say what i said earlier. It is normal for gals to pay attention to bf when they are in contact. YOur gal obviously is not. YOu go find out reasons.

Kuali Baba SG

You treat it the same way you would a normal relationship. It's normal for people to multitask these days. Perhaps what's needed is a fraction more space, or otherwise assurance that you're still interested.

If gestures and words feel empty or routine to you, they will definitely come across that way to the other party. Do you use the webcam sometimes?It helps when you can see each other and when your body language is visible.

tofushop193 SG

i am waiting for her internet to be set up.so we can webcam now.i admit that last time i was a bit over control.but i have stop ever since she told me that and i reliease that thats the truth.ya webcam is much better then on the phoone at least we get to see each other

Kuali Baba SG

Then you need to keep your frustration in check. Six months may not be such an important milestone to her, or she may even be as expressive or romantic as you hope she is.

tofushop193 SG

hmmm..wat u mean by she may even be as expressive or romantic as you hope she is.i have been controlling my temper already.i don get angry easily now and doesnt raise my voice when i am angry i always talk to her in a clam voice and i wan to talk things over as fast as possible.she still send me things that is always hand made from her because she is still a student and doesnt have so much money to buy things for me.ahhh but theres always a period of month she is always like this.easily get irritated.and nope this is not her mensuration.

Forbiddensinner SG

Do you have any ideas what she would be interested to talk with you about?

You can't just call her and randomly pop out a topic, neither should you call her every night just to ask how she is. She might find you annoying this way, especially if she already has a bad day.

When you call her, be patient and listen to all her complaints and the things which she has to say. Sometimes the best thing to do is to do nothing but to listen.