long distance releationship

last SG · 2009-07-20T12:53:58+00:00

i am not trying to trivalizes the topics of long distance relationship.As a singaporean work oversea yes i tell you it is hard on the relationship for both m...

candiz SG

i hardly see long distance relationships work out

I am a victim myself, broke up with ex bf after 1/2 yr he went overseas

Fantagf SG

i hardly see long distance relationships work out

I am a victim myself, broke up with ex bf after 1/2 yr he went overseas

Painful to have long distance relationship. Hardly works out

tofushop193 SG

Do you have any ideas what she would be interested to talk with you about?

You can't just call her and randomly pop out a topic, neither should you call her every night just to ask how she is. She might find you annoying this way, especially if she already has a bad day.

When you call her, be patient and listen to all her complaints and the things which she has to say. Sometimes the best thing to do is to do nothing but to listen.

no i call her jus to chit chat ma.like talk about hows the day.hmmm but now ok.

Hello Kitty SG

jojobeach SG

Calling her everyday is too much lah. You are too predictable, so this is a very boring long distance relationship.

Call her on random days lah.

Sometimes send her a small present in the mail. But don't do it too often lah. A small surprise is better than always a ritual.

Long distance relationship what's there to fight about ?

You are a guy, even if you think you are right, you don't have to force her to accept you are right. So what if you are always right ?.. you are indirectly telling her that she very stupid that's why she is always wrong lah !!

Would you rather be right or do you prefer to still have a gf ?

A relationship needs something to look forward to. You got plan to go visit her or not ? What are your plans in the next one year ? If you got no plans no idea, then a long distance relationship loses it's purpose.

Fugazzi SG

Relate and let go lar, why all this psycho drama?

If it is a relationship - know jolly well its a finsihed product, a thing, how to improve on sth finished , its trying to improve a circle.

Relating is flowing, vulnerable and uncertain, its a present-moment existential expereince - its ever fresh.

The quality of one's relationship(s) comes about cos the quality of one's ability to RELATE is there.

tofushop193 SG

Calling her everyday is too much lah. You are too predictable, so this is a very boring long distance relationship.

Call her on random days lah.

Sometimes send her a small present in the mail. But don't do it too often lah. A small surprise is better than always a ritual.

Long distance relationship what's there to fight about ?

Would you rather be right or do you prefer to still have a gf ?

ya going there this december to celebrate christmas with her next year also.

i know the point about Would you rather be right or do you prefer to still have a gf ?

but why mus she start the fight sometimes.next year she coming back to stay already.got a few plans la like suprise visit go to her house without telling her.surprise gifts also,then go overseas for holidays.

tofushop193 SG

Relate and let go lar, why all this psycho drama?

If it is a relationship - know jolly well its a finsihed product, a thing, how to improve on sth finished , its trying to improve a circle.

Relating is flowing, vulnerable and uncertain, its a present-moment existential expereince - its ever fresh.

The quality of one's relationship(s) comes about cos the quality of one's ability to RELATE is there.

its not drama i jus asking the ways to improve it.i am not saying out like a story wat.anyway its good la except there are somedays of the month she will be irrated like wat i say.and no its not her period.

Fugazzi SG

If u can be u and relate that is good enough - improve on relationship - its a thing!

Unlearn the mistakes of your conditioning

Forbiddensinner SG

Everyone will have a bad day now and then. She has a bad day already, and there is nowhere for her to vent her frustration. That is why when you called her, she is noticably irritated, as she is trying to keep her cool and stop herself from directing her anger at you.

jojobeach SG

ya going there this december to celebrate christmas with her next year also.

i know the point about Would you rather be right or do you prefer to still have a gf ?

You trying too hard to be a mystery man lah. Mystery at moderation is romantic. Mystery overdone is IRRITATING.

Surprise visit and overseas holiday ? That means she don't know you will be visiting lah, then how is she suppose to plan for it and look forward to it ?

She can start the fight, but you don't have to join the argument. Women are sensitive creatures, the more senseless things you say, the more reason for her to get upset with you. Learn to stay out of the line of fire.

Next year is next year.. many months away. Relationship must be worked on today, not tomorrow, not next year.

Woman's love is like a flower that needs constant nurturing ( to grow) and admiration ( to feel wanted).

Do you water your flower every half a year ?

spade1 SG

I had a long dist. for 5 years before getting married - now have 2 kids with her. There were ups and down, 300-400 dollar phone bills every month, once a year come back, half a year she would fly over, once broke up, once tried seeing other people, in the end we got back together and we got married. Nowadays you have Skype which is so much easier and cheaper.

LDR only works out on a few conditions - low level social life - ie.. she only goes out with girls - I only hang out out with guys. And staying with parents or family. They keep you kind of accountable. It easily falls apart if someone is staying in a hostel or constantly hanging out with all sorts of people.

Luvraistlins SG

i guess it must happen at the right place and a right time. imagine if you are a teenager, i dun think one is able to afford the 300 - 400 dollar bill every month >.<

it's difficult but it's possible coz it happens to some people.

I agree with jojobeach. woman's love is like a flower need constand nurturing and admiration to grow and feel wanted. long distance relationship sometimes is hard to provide that.

Subaru WRX SG

i should say 2 out of 10 long distance r/s will work out.

BadzMaro SG

i should say 2 out of 10 long distance r/s will work out.

Fantagf SG

i should say 2 out of 10 long distance r/s will work out.

I think is 0 to half or one out of 10 long distance relationship will work out only.

Already not easy to maintain relationship to work out for couples staying in the same countries what more about they are apart. Me a victim of this , i know.

Short Ninja SG

Do not mistake a long distance relationship with someone who doesnt want to be near you>LOL

Fantagf SG

someone think people are fools.

Rock_Sugar SG

TS,

Where is your gf from? I share the same situation with you, my gf is from phillipiness and we contact mostly by phones and she's will be coming back again to Singapore by year end and in the meantime i'm going there next month to visit her.

tofushop193 SG

i visiting her on 12 dec but i say i will be there at 13 dec.anyway she stays in indonesia.things are fine now.ok the irritation days are over.we have already plan what to do when i am visiting her.ya last month my bill was 200.kinda of ex for me but still affordable.i now using the starhub 128 with calling card one month mabe i spend about 40 dollar calling her.btw spade1 how does the skype calling works.whats the rate???

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