Well, there was once my relationship was at the edge of breaking
apart and i tell myself that the only way not to feel is to
disconnect with her. Meaning dont care, cos when you don care your
heart don feel hurt.
For a man to remain in a marriage for 7 years mean
something. although at times may feel like div but something must
have hold you back. if not you would have go ahead for div
regardless of anything.
And i think if there isnt any third party, i think the
relationship is still good. As it is just a mismatch of lifestyle.
Just like riding a single bicycle in the past where you are free to
choose your speed you want to go and your direction you are going,
but now you have shift from a single bicycle to a double bike, you
may be the one sitting in the front or the one sitting at the back,
you still have to adjust your padeling speed, if you padel too fast
she cant catch up and if she padel too fast you cant catch up.
What i am trying to say is that she have to adjust to you and you
also have to adjust to her. Thats about living together.
If she wants you to become the person she wants, then too bad
she can try going to factory and order one husband. If you hope
that your wife to be lovely to you, understanding everytime, caring
forever, blah blah blah. Then it time to face reality.
It is a good move to ask for help, cos that shows that you want
to work on it. Go read up about books on relationship. I dont think
she gonna scold you for that, if she knows that you care about this
relationship thats why you want to read about it. And not to make
her feel that this relationship need help. Just that you want to
put in effort to make the relationship sweeter.
Five languages of love. Not sure if you had come across this
before. We give love and receive love differently, prehaps what you
have been giving is not love to her and likewise for her.
Work it out buddy. What women wants? sometime they dont even
know.
