First of all, thank you so much to everyone who reply to this
thread, but i must say 50% of it are crap posters like
Terminiator.
However, many thanks to Kuali Baba, Msarieslionheart197, hisoka,
sonic, fugazzi and xtreyier.
(fudgester)
Looks like a fish, smells like a fish. I'm more willing to believe
that he's some 15 year old kid on school holidays with
nothing better to do.
hello, i'm 25 yrs old guy surfing web during office hours ok? no
boss around now. 
(redizalert)
I
dun believe u r this noble. Let's say u r, I also dun believe u wll
do all of the above tat u hav mentioned.
Well, for those who don't believe that i'll do all
those "noble acts" mentioned above, actually, i will. The reason
being: the viet girl is going to spend several years of her life
with a guy who has 0% feelings for her.
To make up for this, all these acts are the least i can do to
compensate her.
i've also thought about, when i eventually divorce her as per
the plan, her family friends in viet will despise her, so my
plan is to at least let her stay on in SG and get proper job. it's
not that hard, and i've enough savings in my bank to at least pay
for all her courses up to diploma-level course.
if i were to keep her at home and do housework everyday plus i
don't treat her as wife, it's very mean and bad to her (mental
health etc).
to reiterate, this is the least i can do, and she'll likely be
better off than in vietnam, as i heard majority of viet guys drink
a lot and beat their wives. and vietnam's living condition is
poorer than SG.
as for sex, i can easily DIY. i can't have sex with someone i
have no interest it at all.
i can't even steam in such situations.
(january)
leave the house loh...complain to all your relatives and find
support...
worst come to worst.. pack your bags and leave your parents to live
outside on your own..
i've thought about this, but not possible. for those of you who
dunno, my family is very closely knitted compared to a lot of other
modern SG families. no politics, no quarrels, whole family sit
together watch TV even though my siblings are all quite grown
up.
(lin88)
if u really dun wan forced marriage...juz say no to your
parents....its better than ruining the viet's girl
life..
tried already, and it's been about 2 years, with me debating on and
off regarding the issue now and then. if it can be avoided, i
won't be posting her.
(sonic)
IMO, it is really sad, if you have parents breathing down your
neck, pushing you to get married. Marriage is for two person
ultimately, not four.
If you marry someone from other countries, who knows, they may just
be interested in your money, or maybe, at the opportunity of moving
to another country for a better life.
true.....and i'm scared of being murdered in my
sleep with my "wife" running away with my money.
In truth, even though
marriages between two nationalities or races are pretty common now,
I still feel that relationships with the same nationalities or race
will last longer, due to the fact that he/she has a higher chance
of understanding your
culture/behaviour/habits.
true.....i seriously wonder how the viet girl is even going to
communicate with me?
i'm not gonna learn vietnamese, so maybe i'll use sign language to
talk to her, and vice versa. the more i think about this, the more
outrageous it is.
And also, arranged marriage
have a higher chance of failing I believe. What TS should do, is to
say no to his parents (in a polite way of course). Afterall, he is
the one who will be staying in the same room with her and sleeping
on the same bed with her.
that's exactly what happened to my grandma and grandpa.
both of them had nothing to say to each other at 40s, and at 50s
and beyond,
they were complete strangers living in the same house. probably
only talked a word or two in 1 - 2 months.
(Msarielionsheart197)
aiyo, Ah Boy…. you are still young and sad to said you are abit
childish. Dont marry that girl if you have intention to divorce
later. Dont be so silly to sponsor her to study…. by than she is
the one who want to divorce you.
i would be really happy if she divorce me. the
earlier the better.
I think you must be the
only son/child and always depend on them, they treat you like
a small kid and afraid that you choose the wrong girl or worried
that cant get one.
yeah, that's right on the spot. they always treat me like a
3-year old infant though i'm 25. Even when i'm 15 - 18 yrs old
years ago, my mom still hold my wrist to cross the road. and when i
need to do something (errand or task etc.), my dad always ask "can
you do it?" and "are you able to do it?"
i can seriously say if i were to enter a story-writing competition
with a 2-year old toddler, instead of supporting me, they would say
"are you sure you can win the 2 year old?"
add to this, maybe cos' also i spend a big part of my time on
video games, so......
that's how it is.
yesterday, i was thinking of how, nowadays, even SG girls don't
face this kind of crap, while me as an SG guy have to.
(Bayje)
cant u just get a female friend to act as your
gf?
that only happens on TV. i've some pretty female colleagues but how
is it fair to them as well? and they've bfs too, and the more we
act, the deeper we would drag the matter.
in any case, the inventor of this entire "mail order bride"
concept really needs to go to hell. i don't give a damn to who he
is.
i hope SG gahmen can save me and ban this entire mail-order
bride thing in SG and MAKE IT ILLEGAL.
the idea of using $$$ to buy a woman to be your wife is
outrageous.....no man with a respectable amt of pride would even
dream of this kind of crime.
love should be when a guy sees a girl he likes, his heart beats
fast and excited , and then begins the different stages of chasing
the girl. that's the natural path.
by using $$$ to buy a girl, regardless of how pretty she is, you
won't get the same kind of satisfaction or achievement as when you
actually won her heart yourself and through your abilities, not
some farking cash.
how is this any different from hiring a prostitute?! i know my
parents mean well, but their methods to achieve their good
intentions are wholly wrong.
