but then again, what if i mention to the viet girl at the
beginning and tell her all about my plans and let her agree
first?
btw, when picking these viet girls, they are also the willing
party.......it's not as if i go vietnam and force anyone to be my
wife.
it's more like "Live and Work in Singapore and marry a SG guy in
name only!" kinda thing. what if she goes back to vietnam one day
and is a lot richer? who would despise her?
also, it's not as if i'm treating her like a toy and abusing
her.....i'll treat her very well, like let her watch TV all she
wants, do some very basic housechores, give her money and let her
go shopping, take up courses, find local viet clubs and communities
for her to join, and even find suitable hubby for her etc.....just
that i keep some distance from her and don't treat her like
wife.
Well, lets get serious.
You are just asking for trouble.
If you get a good Vietnam girl, you will just end up breaking
her heart. She came all the way from her homeland to be your
faithful wife, to be loving and caring to you, whereas you treat
her as if she doesn't mean much to you. In short, you are thinking
about giving her material comfort with little care.
You are planning to behave like those parents who think that
money and toys can keep their children happy, while they work away
the whole day, come home late at night, and go straight to bed. I
have some children who complain to me during tutor classes that
their parents seem to not care at all about them, and some even
feel closer to me than their parents.
In the end, you are just going to make her feel depress and
unhappy, having wasted her time here to be your part-time maid.
On the otherhand, if you get a bad Vietnam girl, you will be the
one asking for it. Seeing you as the fool, she can and she will
easily hollow your pockets, as you have no idea what she is doing
behind your back. After divorce, she will fight her way through
court to strip you of as much as she could.
By then, you will regret being the joker you are, having bring a
load of problems to not only yourself but also your parents. Your
parents will not only be upset, but they will also be angry,
especially if the woman made a cuckoo of you. You may not think
that way, as you wanted her to find another man, but rest assure,
the rest of the SGforums and your relatives will take you as a
laughing stock.
In short, you think too shallowly about marriage. You mention
that posts like Terminator and others not mentioned by you are
crap, but these crap shown how childish and immature you are.
Compared to these craps, your decision is the crap of all craps,
a selfish and ridiculous one. Don't go around thinking you are
being a saint, you are just being a hypocrite.
You refuse to enter marriage, and yet you are willing to bend to
your parents' will so easily, thus showing how indecisive you are.
You do not have the courage to actually challenge your parents, and
I am not talking about being a rebellious child. What you are doing
is standing up for what is morally ethical, and what you truly
want.
Are you going to let your parents made all your decisions for
you? When to have children, what to do in difficult
situations...etc. This will only make you a big baby, and indeed,
as I mentioned before, you are a 25 years old behaving like a 15
years old.
I come from a traditional and strict family, but even so, I dare
to stand up and challenge decisions made by my elderly, even if it
means facing the cane. It is humiliating for a 20+ to be caned, but
I believe in my own decision and my own right in choosing what I
truly want.
Please take this time to reflect upon your "plans" and think
about what you truly want for yourself.
