damn, after reading all your replies here, i start to reflect on
myself and i think i really am a bit too overboard with regards to
the viet girl.....yeah, i've thought about what if she's a good
girl, then i'll break her heart......
(jojobeach)
you are only 25.
Why your parents wants to end your youth so soon ?
As a man, you can always say no to your parents what.
Unless you are a weakling good for nothing who still depends on
your parents for allowance issit ? Grow a spine
dude.
because i never had a gf, and they think i forever will never find
gf.
actually, i never had a gf cos' i was the super-guai type, due to
parents' instructions to me during schooldays (up to 19 yrs
old).
it's the "study-and-no-girlfriend" mentality. after that, i go NS.
came out, already 21. started working till now. to make things
worse, i used to be very anti-social and shy.
however, i've since changed quite a bit the last year or so....can
get along well with girls etc......and now my parents asking me to
marry foreign bride.
some people like are later bloomers mah....while others get gfs at
age 12 - 13, some people only get their 1st gf at 28 or 33
etc.
i wish i can buy a few more years of time, but to set a "deadline"
is very pressurising (as in, get gf by 15 June 2012 etc).
(Terminator)
HEY KIMOSABY!U WANT A VIETNAMESE WIFE THATS WHY U KEEP GOIN WITH
MOMA N PAPAS PLANS!WE CAN READ U LIKE A BOOK!WHY U GOT NO MOUTH TO
TELL THEM U DUN WANT IS IT????WHICH ARMY DID U COME FROM??IM
SURPRISED SINGAPORE COULD ACTUALLY PRODUCE THIS KIND OF 25 YR
OLDS??
today is the 1st day of the o'levels and why are u
still at home? and stop typing in all-caps!
(Beautiful)
Have you ever tried to just dig your heels in and refuse, even
ignore the idea? I mean they can't force you.
i've thought about this, and as i said before, the
plan I mentioned is ONLY the final resort.
i've been considering.....if i dig in my heels and refuse to my
last breathe, then what if they threaten to break all ties with me?
i think my mom may say this as she can be pretty extreme
sometimes.
i told myself i'll use the plan only if they threaten to sever
family ties with me. and yeah, one of the reason is that they want
a grandson, and they keep saying stuff like "it's a route of
passage where every man and woman must take - marriage and
kids".
and they say they prefer viet brides cos' china bridges are a lot
more cunning and scheming.
although i've told them that viet bridges are no better than
bbricks, because compared to SG girls, they've not much
intelligence and are too "guai" for their own good.
(Forbiddensinner)
If you get a good Vietnam girl, you will just end up breaking her
heart. She came all the way from her homeland to be your faithful
wife, to be loving and caring to you, whereas you treat her as if
she doesn't mean much to you. In short, you are thinking about
giving her material comfort with little care.
You refuse to enter marriage, and yet you are willing to bend to
your parents' will so easily, thus showing how indecisive you are.
You do not have the courage to actually challenge your parents, and
I am not talking about being a rebellious child. What you are doing
is standing up for what is morally ethical, and what you truly
want.
thanks for your wise words, dude. after reading this, i think i'll
just **** it up and just defy their plan for me. i think in the
end, this is better than making things complicated and also better
than ruining the viet girl's life.
maybe at most, they disown me but i think i've enough savings to
rent a 1-room flat. or rent a room.
(cool gal)
eh nikar, ur parents very old liao izit?
tats why they are hurrying u to get married..??
if they insist u to buy a bride, i would rather u go viet pub, find
one viet-bu, fall in love and get married..
at least, its consensual n love..
i tell u, this kind of love is better much worth it.
at least those viet-bu noes the hardship they have been thru n will
treasure u more.
when u buy a bride from village, mostly, they havent seen the world
enough and oso, its not out of feeling. its a transaction.
i have many frenz who married vietnam girl. seen many
cases.
hey cool gal, if you don't mind, can share som e stories of your
friuends who marry viet wives? are they being forced into marriage?
or is it consensual love?
lastly, if anyone here is familiar with SG law, maybe can tell me
if got any law here which prevents individuals from being forced
into marriage?
