Confused and troubled in life

dinky1409 SG

want to do what u like but cannot sarport a family, rubber works. if not, the left hand never get pregnant.

dalim1966sg SG

You really put we the guys to shame.

Why dont you just jump down from the tallest building in Singapore.

GreyMeow SG

Hi guys n girls,

Hai, feeling damn confused and sad. Recently, things had not been right for me these days.

My wife is pregnant at the wrong time. You see, i had not had a full time job for a while, i am a freelance diver and at the same time, i do some freelance consultancy works too. The money is not that great but i love what i am doing. On the other hand, my wife and my parents kept saying what i am doing is worng and i had no money to support the family. I refuse to give in and continue to do what i love to do. No CPF, no medical benefits and inability to buy a flat is all they can say.

Sometimes, i feel shitty and sad. I do not realised, the reason why i gave up my full time job is to pursue my interest, which is diving works. I gave a lot to it and had been committed to my interest. So lucky to those whom have parents and spouse to support those doing their interest for a living though it pays shit.

Everyday, everyday they have been telling me the same things over and over again. It makes me very frustrated but i kept my cool. I do not argue or fight back, i just stare at them blankly. But deep down in my heart, i feel so useless as i dare not to give up my interests.

These few years have been shit for me. I lost my first wife and my beautiful daughter due to my mistakes and bo chap attitude, i lost my driving liscense class 3 to class 5. I lost my favourite pet turtles. I lost my regular status in the army and had to pay liquidation damages close to 60K. I had nothing now. No savings and practically useless in all aspects of life. My freelance works get lesser and lesser.

As stated earlier on, my girlfriend is pregnant, we got married. I felt that i could not give her the best of life. I felt so useless. Nobody support whatever i am doing. I try to jump but i just sat on the ledge thinking how would i look if i jump. I don't even have any balls to jump. :(

Its been me and myslelf only. I brought nothing good to my family. Theres no one i can tell my feeling to except typing out to cyber mates.

I wana cry.

RESPONSIBILITY RESPONSIBILITY RESPONSIBILITY....and discipline discipline discipline...you need lots of it

Seek a family counsellor near you place and I'm sure they can offer you some help one way or another.

Don't come here...you will hardly get much help base on the replies here but it's a start.

BotaHead SG

Hi guys n girls,

Hi bros,

Hai, feeling damn confused and sad. Recently, things had not been right for me these days.

Ans: Life are confusing at times, if things are not right for u, then take some time to rearrange them into the correct order.

My wife is pregnant at the wrong time. You see, i had not had a full time job for a while, i am a freelance diver and at the same time, i do some freelance consultancy works too. The money is not that great but i love what i am doing. On the other hand, my wife and my parents kept saying what i am doing is wrong and i had no money to support the family. I refuse to give in and continue to do what i love to do. No CPF, no medical benefits and inability to buy a flat is all they can say.

Ans: I think what they said is correct and u really have to go look for a full time job.

Ans: Well, if your interests that u are having is not bringing in enough income to support u and your family then maybe u wanna make it as your hobby and not main your job?

Ans: U don’t have to give up your interests just make it your secondary income or your hobby that all.

Ans: Forget about the milk that has already spill off from the class because there are all gone. Why not focus on what u want to do now and plan for your future?

Ans: Then take some action and do sometime about it, u can work 2 jobs or 3 jobs and just put your interests aside at the time being. I believe your wife would also want to share your burdens and maybe she can also work and bring in some income too.

Its been me and myslelf only. I brought nothing good to my family. Theres no one i can tell my feeling to except typing out to cyber mates.

I wana cry.

Ans: So what u don’t wanna do something about it? Just cry?

Try go (http://www.e2i.com.sg/services/individuals/find_a_job_n_upgrade_your_skills/) and get help. Choose the trade that u like and they will train u for free. they will also pay u some daily allowance while taking the course.