I have known this guy for 3 weeks. He told me that it was love
at first sight. He loves me a lot and we went out for 2 weeks,msned
and smsed each other before he confessed his feelings. But all
along,i have only treated him like a friend.
All my friends urged me to go into a relationship with him
because he really unique from other guys and he loves me a lot. So
i went ahead. He told me that he loves me..but i cant bring myself
to say it..it is my first relationship,but im a bit apprehensive
that it is lust and not love..because i dont believe that one can
fall in love in 2 weeks..but ive already made clear to him that i
wont have premarital sex.
i think i'm wary of him, thats why i cant really trust him
entirely..i want to give myself a chance to fall in love with
him..but how do i do it? what should i do? he is a good guy..i
think the problem lies with me:(
You are right in saying that the problem lies
with you, but the problem is probably not what you think it is.
From your post, this guy has not demonstrate to have done anything
suggestive to be condemn as lustful - I think you are getting your
thoughts all wrong, confused and chaotic.
Your relationship is blatantly a product of social forces; the
'urging' from your surrounding friends probably holds more weight
than the paramount internal factors that should be doing the
pulling instead. As much as friends have all the 'good intention';
equally likely are the fact that they might just want to catch a
'good show' created out of someone's life and their action/s being
credited for 'being part of the production.'
If you need your friends to play judge in your love life, then I
seriously suggest you pick a more suitable candidate to take on
this role. If your friends reckoned that a two weeks passion is
enough to determine the route to a decent relationship, then they
must be guilty of the intention above or simply out of their mind.
Astrologically speaking, these are Uranus-influenced passion -
comes hastily as it goes. And there are good reasons why these
phenomenons exist.
A chance to fall in love with him?
You kinda reverse the system, isn't it? You enter into a
relationship, after which, you try to fall in love with
him?
Paradox.
If you are feeling uncomfortable over this entire ordeal, I
suggest you reconsider your choice soon before you start hurting
someone badly. If you have to think about loving someone,
rather than spontaneously love someone, I think this is a big
problem.
The problem has nothing to do with lust or love; the problem is
that you don't even know what you are into this relationship for.
Cheers
