i feel like donkhead333 too.!
parn, ur advice is making great sense to me, however... when i
try to 'not permit others to hurt me', i turn into this horrible
monster with a heck-care attitude and this snobby look on my face..
although im not being snobby but just trying to close myself up
from all the hurt. (i duno how to explain lei, but hope that what
im saying is making sense.. hahaha..)
any advice please?
You must have gotten it wrong, I'm not advising you to be a
snobbish, self-centered, unfriendly person. My advice was focused
on TS/victim/sufferer and not on the other bad people who are never
important.
When I advised not to allow/permit people to insult, humilate,
ridicule, hurt you, I meant the acceptance part of yourself when
you are on the receiving end of the attacks that people has
inflicted upon you.
A person have two sides, one side (A) is how the person
expresses/projects themselves towards other good/bad people in the
society. Another side (B) is how the person absorbs/accepts
themselves towards the good/bad people in the society.
A person who understands and able to correct their side (B) will
be able to reduce/nullify any factors that once contributed to
their emo-ness feelings. But of course you will be
shocked/upset/angry when bad people around you have decided to
hurt/insult/humilate/ridicule you. However if you have been
practising on your control over your side (B), you will find that
all those hurt/insult/humilate/ridicule will gradually disappears
and evaporates and you will no longer be bothered by those
hurt/insult/humilate/ridicule factors anymore.
It's gradual and it is not instant unless you always
practised/focused/prepared on your side (B) whenever you got
time...by imagining the hurt/insult/humilation/ridicule that you
might possibly received in the future. And as the time passes, you
will find that all these negative factors that people would like to
pour upon you will be so meaningless and funny that you might even
pity them when you know that they are unable to handle their own
side (B).
But of course you should also focus on your side (A), and do
practise the love that you can bring and expressed upon others.
Don't we all have an overwhelming fountain of love overflowing
within ourselves?
Love is a natural emotion in life, and it should be expressed as
naturally and comfortably to others and especially people whom you
cared for the most and of course your special person.
IF you are able to express love for others in a natural and
comfy manner and still negate all the negative factors that others
have chosen to throw upon you, you will be able to tell yourself
that you are a happy person and your remaining journey in life will
definitely be a happy one even until the end of the
world.
Afterall, nobody deserves to feel moody, stressful,
emotional, angry, upset, negative when they are all here for only
100 years? The clock is still ticking away and I am still growing
even though I am unhappy or happy, so isn't it better for us to be
happy then unhappy?
I have decided to die with happy memories, and replace all
my unhappy memories with many happy memories till the rest of
my time.
And I hope everyone will be able to be happy like me too.
