A complicated issue. But TS CANNOT LIVE WITH IT
BUT CANT LIVE WITHOUT IT EITHER. TS STATED IT BEEN YEARS HE
HAS BEEN LIKE THIS. IN ACTUAL FACT, TS HAS BECOME HABITUAL IN
HIS EMOTIONAL BEHAVIOUR AND PATTERNS. OLD HABITS DIE HARD
DUDES.
Its like a smoker or alcohol addict trying to quit though he
feels the pain but he cant do it cos he cant live without them
either.
I suggest continue life as normal and try out the remedies i
stated earlier. u cant let go of the pain totally but u can try to
ease it. it is the best approach bbecuase the easing effect will
enable u to continue with the issue and at the same time
doesnt deprive u of it since u cant live without it either.
Consider yourself as the sufferer. See it in this way. make
yourself as a hero,
Heroes do suffer. think about yrself as one. It will boost yr
self esteem.
Try to be more close to parents. Spend more time with them. I
can see you are still young. But old people , working adults also
do suffer from this kind of problems. But there is a problem i am
foreseeing, I guess u have not finished your NS
yet. Prepare yourself for a hard time because u are going to NS
with such a emotional burden. Trust me, its going to be a hard life
because there is more extra feelings coming in -
Fear,Hatred and Anger . In this NS passage, you are
going to feel all of this plus your existing problem due to your
confinement in a prison like environment, everything is going to be
elevated to a high level of emotional burden.
But please, i request u, do not try to illegal stayout, AWOL
or keng MC to see the girl unless you know about your camp
environment which you will get to know after 1 year of national
service. many guys do it because of girlfriends or girls they want
to meet. Some camps are pretty relaxed about discipline , while
others are not. it depends on your luck. As for me , years ago, i
had to live like a wanted man during NS and had to do a many
cunning things like illegal stayout, just to meet the girl at her
convienience. The feeling sucks, like a life of a criminal on the
run. Thank god, its all over now. and mind you my NS at that time
was 2 1/2 years stint compared to 1 year and 10 months of current.
Thats pretty long and i was in doubt and confusion about the girl
if i ever to be with her together. NS HAD PUT A TEMPORARY LONG
OBSTACLE TO ALL PLANS I HAVE BEEN HAVING ABOUT THE GIRL.
i would suggest the following movie therapy for now
Unbreakable - Starring Bruce Willis. In this
movie the main character is shown to have various emotional
problems in his personal life and grappling with a special sixth
sense he was born with .
The Sixth Sense - In this movie, the boy is
suffering from the same emotional problems due to the visions of
ghosts he has been seeing
Lady in the Water - In this movie, a girl from
the fairy world gets lost in the human world and she holds a great
responsibility and pain associated with it.Not only the girl, the
man who helps her seems to suffer fom the responsibility of sending
this girl back to her homeworld.
These movies are directed by M Night Shyamalan. most of his
movies show a character who are suffering and the significance of
this suffering.