hello all. this is my story.
i don't know whether the problem lies with me or her.
problem lies with both of you. One is hitting
and the other is willing to bear the hits, yi ge yuan da, yi ge
yuan ai
i still doubt her somehow. i don't know why she gave me the
feeling that she's doing something else behind my back. my mind
always run wild, thinking of the impossibilities. is it because
of her past doings which made me into this state now?
patterns are telling. Believe
your instinct.
here's the one of the incidents which happened recently.
about a month ago, i found out about her
online conversation (chat log) with a guy which she denies it
and told me it was her friend. i won't discuss the content of the
conversation (if you know what i mean) and both of them had
webcamed together... and i chose to believed her for one
more time and forgave her.
major red flag already, you
knew it, if not you wouldn't be posting it up here
and then just recently, she was chatting online as usual and i
was doing my stuff (don't really wanna care who she chatting with
but my heart wanted to know). but on that night, somehow i had this
curiousity, and i turned my head to look at her conversation (with
a guy) and on webcam, she quickly closed the window.
there's a fine line between
respecting others and getting respect for yourself. If she abuses
your trust and acts suspiciously, why should you continue to give
her the same level of trust anyway?
why did she want to do that?
sometimes she will tell me, this guy that guy tried to woo her
and said wanna marry her for just knowing her 3 days and blah blah.
i was proud of her cause i told her if she isn't nice, no one
will wanna woo her. but why does she give other guys chances to woo
her? why don't she just tell them she's attached? i mean if she
tells them that and they try to woo her, im okay with it. she has
the right to choose. but since we are together now, she did
not tell them about me. and speaking of that, i was named as
'friend' infront of her friends and not 'bf'. when her friends
called, she will tell them 'im going out with my friend'. i was
like 'huh?'.
she is leaving options free
for herself so that she could be introduced as single when she goes
out with others
there are other incidents and i don't know how to continue..
i mean does she respect this relationship at all? or am i
putting in too much effort?
she clearly does not
demonstrate respect
i understand that a relationship should have mutual trust and
respect. but my trust for her is depleting. is it me or her? am i
thinking too much?
you are definitely not
thinking too much. She is too much
p.s. we are both about mid-20's already
she should then be mature
enough to know what she is doing, she is clearly toying with you.
Find someone else who would not do that to you and I'm sure there
are other more decent women out there
Clearly, there are a lot of question marks in your mind all
along already. Do you think a serious relationship should make you
feel this way?
Nevertheless, she has already intiated a break with you,
although i wouldn't say it was sudden, because all signs were there
already as you had described. However, do open up your eyes the
next time. As much as you like her character of being carefree and
playful nature, unless faithfulness is a quality you can forgo,
there is a limit as to how your girl should behave herself. Or
maybe try to loosen up yourself a little? I suspect the reason you
like her character is because you're too uptight for your own
liking yourself. When you are more comfortable with yourself, maybe
you will be less attracted to those wild sort of girls.