Hi all, i've joined sgforums and its been about two years
already. Posted replies in some forums here and there, but this is
the first time i start a new topic, and i hope to find some good
advice from you guys.
I've been with my boyfriend for about two years already. We went
through alot just to get together, therefore i cherished this
relationship and i love him really really much. And our
relationship is nearly perfect. But here's the problem: I get
jealous too easily, and I'm very scared this will jeopardize our
relationship.
We had a few quarrels here and there, and most of the time, it
is because of my jealousy problem. I know sometimes there's nothing
much for me to worry about, because i know he is a good guy, but
yet when we are out together, there are times when i can't help but
feel insecure when a pretty girl walks by and his eyes happen to be
glancing at her. Or when he mentions about his ex-crush, i just get
that green feeling i cannot shake away.
I've looked at advices on the internet. Issues pertaining to low
self-esteem, therefore it brings about insecurity issues leading to
jealousy. All of this, i've read before. Sometimes i even tell
myself, 'dont say anything sarcastic' when he is mentioning
something to me about the opposite sex, but sometimes, my mouth
doesnt go in sync with my brain, and I've said things i've really
dont mean it.
How do you guys overcome the feeling of jealousy? Please advise,
because I really don't want to lose this relationship..
Thanks people. :)
A relationship should go both way.. so even if jealousy problem
arises unless it's very extreme, the boyfriend still have a part to
play in making sure the girlfriend feels secure.
And he will if he cares about you. Brushing problems away is not
going to help a relationship grow long term, no matter what you
both have been through.
