Marriage marks the bonding between two people and their
FAMILIES.
It is not always necessary for the bride and groom to foot the
bills for the wedding reception and it should be as affordable as
it can be for both families of the bride and groom.
If either families preferred a granduer wedding reception, then
both families should work together with the bride and groom to
decide the best possible wedding reception affordable.
It seems clearly that both families weren't communicating and
this could be one of the problems that many forumers here has
failed to factor that missing piece of information into rainee's
situation. People just plainly read what others type nowadays
without much processing and understanding isn't it?
If rainee sincerely seeks help from forumers in here, she should
be more honest and be transparent about her feelings and her
current situation. Withholding information on purpose and
especially those informations that may place her in a
disadvantageous position in her stance at sgforums may indicated
that she might already have a clue that she was in the wrong. Even
so, the advices that she received may not be relevant to her
current situation as a single piece of additional withheld
information could change the composition of the situation entirely.
I'm not surprised if she realised that she's not getting the real
help that she seeks in here because of that.
I would've expected a moderator to give better and neutral
advice to rainee. Just because people here knows her more than her
parents, doesn't means they should be taking sides with her and
support her even though what she was doing or thinking is wrong and
without morals.
If the TS wasn't rainee and it was some nobody that nobody knew
about, then people wouldn't have felt obliged to take sides
and would've change their stance to neutral and advised more
sensibly. So as a moderator, don't take sides and do give sensible
advices to other forumers who needed help.
Advising children to go against their parents is definitely a
BAD advice to suggest. If you are a parent and people suggested to
your child/children to go against you, what would you feel? Would
you have agreed with those advices too?
Children don't and will never have that luxury of choosing their
parents in their life, that is the law of nature and it is there
for us to respect and obey.
Whoever agrees with advices that encourages children to go
against their own parents will one day find themselves in the
parents position. So be warned of what you have advised others as
it will come back to claim you.
Don't be a moderator if you are unable to resist the temptations
of joining the wrong crowd to give morally incorrect
encouragements to forumers in need of help.
what a long story? Have you even been married?