I feel betrayed

last SG · 2008-09-16T11:50:43+00:00

This already shows her character of loyalty... In front of her mum, she would be very affectionate. behind her mum, she talks behind her back...This is famil...

White_SoulReaper SG

the story from beginning:

My bro is engaged to this indonesia girl which was match maked my my mum... My bro was engaged once with another sg girl but broke off... My bro always accidentally call this indo girl his sg girlfriend name... He hinted that he got sg gf... But my mum would be angry and say pity this indo girl, she did so much for us... When I mean did so much, it means that she always buy stuff for us... But I feel it's like bribing us to like her...

Initially, I liked this indo girl... Now, I hate her to the core... Here's why:

1. She framed my godsister of trying to break up my bro and her... Initially I believed her, then suddenly her whole family starts to get involved and say unkind stuff about my god sister like sms never reply, avoiding etc... One thing that gave it away was when this indo girl tried to gain sympathy vote from me by saying my god sister is so mean to her in the most 'baby-like' way... I did ask my god sister of this matter and she was in total shocked... My god sister did sms her, but she never replied back...

2. BTW, she's in m'sia... When my mum ask her to buy clothes for me and my sis in Indo(which we will pay), instead of saying "I'll see if have" she will say "Oh, don't have anymore"... How would she know? Is she the inventory manager of the whole clothing line in indonesia?

3. My sister and I are genetically prettier than her... She would look at us a weird way...

4. She always claimed that ppl are jealous of her beauty... And that m'sia and sg in jealous of Indonesia? for real?

5. One time she called me up just to see if my bro is at home... Talk about trust issues...

6. When my bro ignores her msg es, she would complain to my mum that my bro ignore her and that he has changed... She would expect my mum to tell my bro that and hopefully that he would change because my mum talked to him about the matter... If you are in his place, what would you feel...

7. She loves to exagerate... One time, I merely mentioned that I would love to get a belly button pierce as we passed a piece shop... The next week, I seeked my mum's approval for it... Being very conservative, my mum said no... Of course I pleaded but to no avail...

This was witness by my sis... My mum then say "You see, ****** wants to get a belly button piercing"... She replied that the week before I was also begging her to get a belly button pierce... WTF!!!

8. This is the most that I hate about her... Yes, her mum's a b!tch... But everytime she fought with her mum about something, she would complain to my mum... Not just that, she talks behind her mum's back! Her mum does like wearing 20 yr old clothing and her character sucks big time... Even so, that's her mother... Her own mother, how can she talk behind her mother to my mother in a way of no respect? Such loyalty?

9. One more thing, I hate going to JB... It's freaking hot there and there's nothing much to do... When I didnt come for a long time, that Foreign B!tch would ask, "you don't like me is it?"...

10. When ANY guy tries and flirt, she flirts back... Even the really fugly ones... Talk about being cheap...

The one thing i feel betrayed is about is my mum... She is like in love with this foreign B!tch!!! When my bro JUST met her, my mum said it was love at 1st sight...

I told my mum that I didn't like this indo B!tch... But I told her it's because of reason no.8... Didnt mention the rest... but I did told her there's more, just didnt explore it in detail...

A few days back, she kept mentioning her name... And esp. about that indo B!tch complaining to my mum about her mother... I hate it when such trust between mother and daughter is exploited... I confronted her about such attitute... She said that she has no one to turn to... Oh please, she has her aunts who also hates her mum... She has my bro... Of all ppl, my mum?

And then my mum starts muttering and gave me the cold shoulder(feels like kana stab in the heart)... And I confronted again and say that she's being like this because I don't like that Indo B!tch... And thus with such un agreement, how can she stay with me? What bull? She always likes to play the 'I don't want to live with you' card... And I finally said, 'OK'...

Then she started to 'bring back' old promises such as when I was 14, which I promised to take care for the house in JB... I am 23 now, of course I have different commitment and goals now than when I was 14... Still wanna play that card???

Till now, I feel that i cannot forgive her... It really shows her loyalty... She would prefer taking the side of some outsider than her own daughter? And mind you, I don't like the Indo B!tch, not in conflict and my mum's already like this...

I really feel betrayed and damned pissed!!!

And my mum did mention to that Indo B!tch if it would be ok if my parents live with them after her marriage to my bro, and she said yes, but her face like don't want like that...

BrUtUs SG

erm u wanna PM her picture? unless shes the very rich indo gal type else quite hard to imagine her as indo pretty... ur bro still likes her? matchmake liao then when must get married?

BadzMaro SG

It appears u have sufficient reasons with facts to think that she is not a good addition into the family, however, u just seem to have no weight, Why not discuss with ur bro , the last thing u want is hell on earth.. and in ur house.

Unfortunately parents will always bring up the old shit because they remember. My parents also always bring it up. Something i promised when real young but those things can be solved with alternative means of achieving ur goals and still stay commited.

Anyways , feel better liaw after writing it all out ? lol!

White_SoulReaper SG

Brutus: She's above average..Not rich liao... My bro did hinted that he doesnt wanna get married to her, but my mum would say, hey she 'do' so much for us, must get married... Being a mummy's boy, he would listen...

BadzMaro: The thing is, I don't give a damn if she marries my bro... BTW, my bro and I are not close... Bringing this up to him will most likely make him hit me... Yup, does feel better... Been keeping this in for a long time...

The thing is I feel betrayed that my mum would choose some outsider(not one with gd character) over me, her own daughter... I think my mum is being played

honeymouse SG

The thing is I feel betrayed that my mum would choose some outsider(not one with gd character) over me, her own daughter... I think my mum is being played

How old is your brother, if you don't mind me asking? I believe your brother should really think twice before marrying this girl. Loving your mum is one thing but certain things he shouldn't let others to decide for him. He will be the one who has to spend the rest of his life with her, not you or your mum.

Breaking up now is less messy than having a divorce later.... especially if kids are involved.

BrUtUs SG

The thing is I feel betrayed that my mum would choose some outsider(not one with gd character) over me, her own daughter... I think my mum is being played

wa ur bro reali mummy boy.... gues ur mum ate too much of the goodies she gave... looks like she a problematic gal... her coming into the family will create more hell... now the only 1 can prevent all the hell is u n ur bro.... go talk to him n hear how he reali feel... if hes not hapi with whole thing then u gotta help him out...

White_SoulReaper SG

Breaking up now is less messy than having a divorce later.... especially if kids are involved.

My bro's 34 this year, the girl's 23...

My bro was in messy breakup with his former fiancee, and i think he's tired of dating again since they were together for 5 years... He's a definite mummy's boy... He will do as she said... Most of his life choices is made because my parents 'recommend' him into it...

I did mentioned it to my mum... But was dismissed... It's alright, if they get married, then she kana abused or divorced or show her true colours to my parents... Then I would say 'I told you so'...

Hanagata SG

i kinda pity your bro...

White_SoulReaper SG

hahaha... indeed he's a big mummy's boy... But I think it's of guilt also since he went to prison once...

I am fine with her coming into the family as long as she doesnt disturb me... At least I got a live soap opera to watch...

See, I am not close to my bro and he has violent tendencies... I've been hit once...

honeymouse SG

My bro's 34 this year, the girl's 23...

I did mentioned it to my mum... But was dismissed... It's alright, if they get married, then she kana abused or divorced or show her true colours to my parents... Then I would say 'I told you so'...

You can only do so much and make yourself heard. If your brother and mum still want to go ahead with that decision, just stay away from it and move forward with your own life.

At the end of the day, it's your brother's own decision. If he doesn't want to stand up to your mum himself, there's nothing you can do about it.

I know you love your family but please remember that you're not responsible for their action.

White_SoulReaper SG

You can only do so much and make yourself heard. If your brother and mum still want to go ahead with that decision, just stay away from it and move forward with your own life.

At the end of the day, it's your brother's own decision. If he doesn't want to stand up to your mum himself, there's nothing you can do about it.

I know you love your family but please remember that you're not responsible for their action.

I am aware of it ... Thanks =)

honeymouse SG

I am aware of it ... Thanks =)

That's good. I just want you to know that you don't have to feel guilty if anything goes wrong one day.

HelloKittyFan SG

Family will always be Family.

One may not be responsible towards one's family's actions, esp when family members insist on doing things their way despite after being 'warned' and advised against.

But, if things really didn't turn out well, and your mum and bro really had a hard time with that gal in the future, do u feel u can really stand aside and tell urself dun feel guilty cos u have did all u can now, and that they should be responsible for their own actions?

If u can do that, by all means go ahead.

Else, either u try harder to convince them, coming up with evidences etc, or just be prepared for what may happened in the future and lend a helping hand whenever required should anything really happens.

Family is for Life, no matter how many bad feelings there are.

White_SoulReaper SG

Family will always be Family.

One may not be responsible towards one's family's actions, esp when family members insist on doing things their way despite after being 'warned' and advised against.

If u can do that, by all means go ahead.

Family is for Life, no matter how many bad feelings there are.

One thing about my parents is that they are desperate to get my bro married... Why? For the typical reason... He's more than 30, must get married... I disagree on this... However, my opinions doesnt matter...

I just said that I didnt like this Indo gal, see what happens, I am in conflict with my mum... It's better that they experience it than they blaiming me, What if my bro got married...

HelloKittyFan SG

All in all, it's actually a family issue; do what u feel best and have no regrets.

I been thru similar situation as you, my mum will rather side an outsider than her own child me, cos my character was different from those of my siblings.

Whatever I said, she won't listen, but if an outsider said the same things as me, she will listen.

Our relationship was pretty bad to the extend that she told me is either she or me in the same house.

Ever hear a parent telling her own child that you are wasting my electricity cos u are using lights to study for ur exams?

Now, years later, no one will actually believed that we have conflicts that bad; we have grown closer and we seem more like friends.

Family is for Life; in all my entire life, anyone who knows about the conflicts between my mum and me, they will just tell me 'oh please, u dun have to feel guilty, ur mum forced u to a corner, jus leave that house and live a life of ur own.'

I never leave, cos she's after all my mum, my siblings are still my siblings; we are family in this life, doesn't mean we will be again in the next, y not treasure what we have now.

u are still young, few yrs down the road, ur thinking will change. (",)