The problem is, I got too comfortable in the relationship.
I read an article the other day, stating how guys and girls
award points to each other in a relationship. It is true for me, so
I thought I could share this.
For a girl, anything positive a guy does, regardless of how
big or small, is awarded +1 point. (Hugging her and saying "I love
you" = +1 pt, buying her a new iPod for her birthday = +1pt)
On the other hand, for guys, big things that she does is
normally awarded more points, whereas smaller things are awarded
less. (E.g. buying a PSP for him = +5 pts, whereas calling him and
say "I miss you" = +1 pt.)
So in the end, the guy might think that he has done a lot for
her but never knew he did not accumulate that many points. While
the girl felt that she wasn't appreciated because he isn't very
consistent.
Hmm...I felt like I'm in this situation right now :(
Here's a piece of advice a dating site will not tell you.
It's not too much about how many points you accumulate.
It's not too much about communication either.
Little girls always wonder who their husbands will be, who they
will end up with.
Little girls are told since they are young,
"You must kiss many frogs to find a prince."
Which is what she is doing now. And how can you blame her if you
are not the one?
The problem with a lot of men in general is that we believe,
"By kissing this frog a few thousand times, she will eventually
turn out to be the princess"
Sad but true, a lot of men does not test out the frog but marries
the frog thinking she will eventually
turns out to be the princess.
Why do you still hope?
Why can't you see what she has already realised? If she is not the
one, a frog remains a frog!
Don't take this as a failure in your life.
This is a chance for you to reverse everything.
It's ultimately about finding someone who you truly love and who
loves you back.
Your goal should be to kiss more frogs instead of getting her
back.
