No faith

last SG · 2008-08-23T13:20:20+00:00

girl, correct me if im wrong, you are still at a kind of young age? like 13-15? Nope! i'm 20 this year! LOL

kawaiigal SG

I just ended this shortlived 2 months relationship.

Somehow I wasn't sure of my feelings for him cos i feel he's more like a brother to me. But I agreed to give both of us a chance and entered this relationship.

I initiated breakup for 3 times during this relationship cos he made me angry. But well, those weren't really what i really want. I jus said it out of spite.

So recently,he asked for a breakup.

His reason is simply he lost faith in both of us.

I did salavge this relationship but it doesn't seem to work.

I asked him for a chance yet he dun wan to give me.

I'm also angry with him for not trying to overcome this obstacle and jus give up on a relationship like that.

I gave him chances for those breakup i iniated. Why is it so unfair that he dun wan to give me a chance.

I wanted to try patching up. But it's also my ego that's stopping me from doing so.

Well, all my friends was shocked that i wanna try patching up with him cos they said it's not worth it to.

Wat should i do? I really really love him.

haiz. it's such a sad thing that when i start loving him, he starts losing faith.

Everything just go in opposite direction.

Now, do all of you think he will ask for a patch up? *i really hope he does. HAIZ*

Rednano SG

I just ended this shortlived 2 months relationship.

Somehow I wasn't sure of my feelings for him cos i feel he's more like a brother to me. But I agreed to give both of us a chance and entered this relationship.

I initiated breakup for 3 times during this relationship cos he made me angry. But well, those weren't really what i really want. I jus said it out of spite.

So recently,he asked for a breakup.

His reason is simply he lost faith in both of us.

I did salavge this relationship but it doesn't seem to work.

I asked him for a chance yet he dun wan to give me.

I'm also angry with him for not trying to overcome this obstacle and jus give up on a relationship like that.

I gave him chances for those breakup i iniated. Why is it so unfair that he dun wan to give me a chance.

I wanted to try patching up. But it's also my ego that's stopping me from doing so.

Well, all my friends was shocked that i wanna try patching up with him cos they said it's not worth it to.

Wat should i do? I really really love him.

haiz. it's such a sad thing that when i start loving him, he starts losing faith.

Everything just go in opposite direction.

Now, do all of you think he will ask for a patch up? *i really hope he does. HAIZ*

u should have suggested "i think we should take a break for a while... a break from us." would be better... a cooling down period.

kawaiigal SG

For the 3 breakups i initiated, I did ask for cool down period.

But he dun wan. He feels that a cool down period jollymeans breakup.

I dun even knows his feelings.

All i know is i still couldn't move on.

I regretted some of the things i did in the past.

Rednano SG

For the 3 breakups i initiated, I did ask for cool down period.

But he dun wan. He feels that a cool down period jollymeans breakup.

I dun even knows his feelings.

All i know is i still couldn't move on.

I regretted some of the things i did in the past.

then wait for a few more weeks... whether or not he comes back... if it be, let it be.

kawaiigal SG

It's been a month.

Initially, he still msn, msg me ad even meet me for lunch.

Nw he dun even talk to me at all.

I wanted to be friends with him.

He's a good friend.

I dun wanna lose such a friend.

At the same moment, I really hope that we can really patch back.

I've been crying whenever i think of what he had done for me or our sweet memories.

mistyblue SG

you are not clear what you want and you don't treasure the relationship and you sound emo. Anyways, its ended, why have you not moved on. The guy's moved on and I am gload he did.

wonderamazement SG

you didn't treasure him while he was by your side, now that he's gone then you'll realise his "importance"... pft. he made you angry and you talk initiated a breakup? talk about him giving up on an obstacle you created man...

wonderamazement SG

in a way i'd like to say "orbi good" but i guess it's too harsh, learn to treasure things before they're gone for good...

kawaiigal SG

Yup... i udnertsnad... somehow...i really feels that i only start to treasure him when he's gone.

Hard to move on.

I dunno why i nid so muchtime to move on especially when this relationship is so short.

I'm quite sure he had moved on.

it's kinda disappointed to see im moved on so quickly also.

It's like this r/s means nth to him

youyayu SG

guys don't like to hear things that is threatening.. and u did just that.. too bad for u

Rednano SG

guys don't like to hear things that is threatening.. and u did just that.. too bad for u

small quarrels no need to say break break up... now he really granted u ur wish. u ought to be happy.

novelltie SG

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SingaporeTyrannosaur SG

I initiated breakup for 3 times during this relationship cos he made me angry. But well, those weren't really what i really want. I jus said it out of spite.

If you treat these kinds of things with contempt they will be taken away from you one day.

The hard truth is, I think he is just hurt and tired by your behaviour, and don't know which part of what you say is true anymore. And the thing is... do you know?

I understand because I had a similar experience with a person who just didn't seem to know what she wants. One moment she's nice and good to me and the next she tells me that you're just wasting your time on her and that she does not feel anything. One moment she snaps at me for being too close and when I give her space she gets angry because she thinks I am ignoring her. I don't really blame her in some sort of way, I just kind of realized that she didn't really know what she wanted and was just trying to protect herself at each and every moment.

But the fact remains that such behaviour hurts the other party as well, and it reaches a point where the other person just feels that he cannot be played as a fool anymore and decides that such a thing cannot carry on. It's not about giving you chance or not, it's about stopping this whole vicious cycle.

Do you really think he feels good everytime you initiate a breakup? And three times you did this to him, and as you said it yourself out of spite and not really on a real reason. Simply because you needed something to win the argument, to get the final word in.

I am not judging you, don't get me wrong. But if you really want this to work then you need to take a honest look at your own behaviour and anything else. Because such things cannot be based on lies.

If you really want him back, and there's no certainty of that... then you really have to swallow your pride, admit what you did to him and clear the air about it. If not then it's really selfish and unreasonable to expect him to open himself to you and more hurts again when you are not ready to stay your hand from plunging the knife into his heart again.

You really got to be serious about this...

Rednano SG

If you treat these kinds of things with contempt they will be taken away from you one day.

The hard truth is, I think he is just hurt and tired by your behaviour, and don't know which part of what you say is true anymore. And the thing is... do you know?

I am not judging you, don't get me wrong. But if you really want this to work then you need to take a honest look at your own behaviour and anything else. Because such things cannot be based on lies.

You really got to be serious about this...

yup, take an analogy.

he is interested so he takes piano lessons for the piano exam. but then he failed 3 times liao... so a typical person will start to lose heart to learn further, naturally. patience, perseverance and determination have limits too.

jojobeach SG

I dedicate this song to you.

Liu Luo Ying- Hou Lai

We all make this mistake my girl.

Most important is to learn the lesson and cherish the next one who loves you.

BrUtUs SG

I just ended this shortlived 2 months relationship.

Somehow I wasn't sure of my feelings for him cos i feel he's more like a brother to me. But I agreed to give both of us a chance and entered this relationship.

I initiated breakup for 3 times during this relationship cos he made me angry. But well, those weren't really what i really want. I jus said it out of spite.

So recently,he asked for a breakup.

His reason is simply he lost faith in both of us.

I did salavge this relationship but it doesn't seem to work.

I asked him for a chance yet he dun wan to give me.

I'm also angry with him for not trying to overcome this obstacle and jus give up on a relationship like that.

I gave him chances for those breakup i iniated. Why is it so unfair that he dun wan to give me a chance.

I wanted to try patching up. But it's also my ego that's stopping me from doing so.

Well, all my friends was shocked that i wanna try patching up with him cos they said it's not worth it to.

Wat should i do? I really really love him.

haiz. it's such a sad thing that when i start loving him, he starts losing faith.

Everything just go in opposite direction.

Now, do all of you think he will ask for a patch up? *i really hope he does. HAIZ*

u asking for 3x breakup caused all the damage... if u reali love him jz be the hapi u n let him see the gal who he wooed... if he hvnt moved on then most likely still got chance... free will la...

kawaiigal SG

Well, spot on. my actions are exactly like her.

Guess i really dunno what i wan at that time.

But I knew it now.

But the problem is. is it so hard to be friends now.

He dun even talk to me anymore.

Hanagata SG

what i can say is time to move on :(

jojobeach SG

Well, spot on. my actions are exactly like her.

Guess i really dunno what i wan at that time.

But I knew it now.

But the problem is. is it so hard to be friends now.

He dun even talk to me anymore.

Girl, he just doesn't want to string you along.

I'm pretty sure his new girlfriend wouldn't like you hanging around anyway.

Let him go.

rainee SG

Some people think they can forget better when you are not around. I am one of those who after break up will never ever talk to my ex-es anymore. So you cannot expect he can still be friends with you after breaking up.

Learn your lesson and move on.