No faith

last SG · 2008-08-23T13:20:20+00:00

girl, correct me if im wrong, you are still at a kind of young age? like 13-15? Nope! i'm 20 this year! LOL

kawaiigal SG

Some people think they can forget better when you are not around. I am one of those who after break up will never ever talk to my ex-es anymore. So you cannot expect he can still be friends with you after breaking up.

Learn your lesson and move on.

well, he's e one who asked to be friends.

I din agree to it initially.

But now, when i feel that we can be friends, he dun even wanna talk to me anymore.

He's so being unfair to me everytime

MaNyZeR SG

Ar.... your fault ba... who ask you always quarrel you use break up to threaten him... maybe he is sick and tired of your tactics and wanna let you try the real feel of breaking up.

Sometimes i just dont understand why girls like to break up over small little things e.g. the guy dont wanna give in to her etc. I mean its not a very healthy relationship if either party keep mentioning the word break up over small issues.

Anyway your relationship is only 2 months old.. It is not that painful to just forget it and move on.

This teaches you something.. dont always expect people to give in to you... sometimes you have to appreciate their presence and effort. Cherish them while they are still with you.. not when they are already gone. Hope you learn this lesson.

Last piece of advice.. dont not use the word break up to threaten guys.. if they really love you they will feel very hurt by your usage of the taboo word so frequently whenever a quarrel emerges... This is your retribution now that your guy has really broken up with you.

rainee SG

well, he's e one who asked to be friends.

I din agree to it initially.

But now, when i feel that we can be friends, he dun even wanna talk to me anymore.

He's so being unfair to me everytime

Maybe he realized that it is hard to be friends now...

I don't think he is being unfair...

mystiv SG

as the other forumites have pointed out, don't use the breakup word so often..

it makes the other party feel that you dont treasure this relationship, and that every single problem will lead to a breakup..

if he feels that you aren't putting in the effort and treasuring it, why will he bother..?

Detached SG

I just ended this shortlived 2 months relationship.

Somehow I wasn't sure of my feelings for him cos i feel he's more like a brother to me. But I agreed to give both of us a chance and entered this relationship.

I initiated breakup for 3 times during this relationship cos he made me angry. But well, those weren't really what i really want. I jus said it out of spite.

So recently,he asked for a breakup.

His reason is simply he lost faith in both of us.

I did salavge this relationship but it doesn't seem to work.

I asked him for a chance yet he dun wan to give me.

I'm also angry with him for not trying to overcome this obstacle and jus give up on a relationship like that.

I gave him chances for those breakup i iniated. Why is it so unfair that he dun wan to give me a chance.

I wanted to try patching up. But it's also my ego that's stopping me from doing so.

Well, all my friends was shocked that i wanna try patching up with him cos they said it's not worth it to.

Wat should i do? I really really love him.

haiz. it's such a sad thing that when i start loving him, he starts losing faith.

Everything just go in opposite direction.

Now, do all of you think he will ask for a patch up? *i really hope he does. HAIZ*

Do you really love him? Or is this about your comfort zone and wounded pride?

Giving you the benefit of doubt, I'd still advise you to move on.

This whole thing had been, pardon me, quite a clown show from the start. From your "just-trying-out" to your multiple threats, pardon me again, your actions proved juvenile and your disregards to the relationship.

You complained that he had been unfair... Well actually, it had been just, for the three times you called it over, he came back pleading with you for a chance to salvage whatever you guys had left... You had 3 chances then, to realize your mistakes and to set this thing straight...

You mentioned that he has been ignoring you, he's either probably too busy trying to get over it or already had lost interest in this whole thing. Right now, your best bet is to put aside your pride, apologize and befriend him again. If that doesn't work, then it's time for you to learn a hard lesson and move on.

Life is a harsh teacher, thread more carefully next time

00king00 SG

for the gals out there, pls don't play with the word "break-up". U may say it out of spite, but guys take it very seriously

if i were yr bf, i will also lose faith, juz a little stuff get angry and want break-up, not 1, not 2, but 3 times.

TS, i dun tink it is completely hopeless yet, the fact that he went through 3 break-up threats by u means that he is actually quite soft-hearted.

put in effort to chase him back, i'm sure u can do it. after dat rmb to be more patient with each other and stop playing around with the idea of break-up

Chris1988 SG

something like breakup is a sacred thing. cannot anyhow say one only last resort than use.

in 2 months already want break up 3 times. you know how serious is this

people having honeymoon for 3 months on avg you 2 mths already want to break up. i think if i the guy i also think not worth the try on the relationship after the third time. and i must emphasize again, in TWO months. your FIRST TWO months. it simply goes to show how immature you are taking 'break up' so easily and using it to spite your boyfriend. just move on with your life and take it as a lesson learnt.

Rednano SG

something like breakup is a sacred thing. cannot anyhow say one only last resort than use.

in 2 months already want break up 3 times. you know how serious is this

yup, so next time... dun play with fire.

kawaiigal SG

Thank you all of u for the valuable feedback!

Guess i had learnt my lesson.

It's just too late.

Gotta move on.

Any tips on how to move on faster?

Rednano SG

Thank you all of u for the valuable feedback!

Guess i had learnt my lesson.

It's just too late.

Gotta move on.

Any tips on how to move on faster?

get a new guy.

bury urself with school/cca/homework or if working already, ur job.

kawaiigal SG

for the gals out there, pls don't play with the word "break-up". U may say it out of spite, but guys take it very seriously

if i were yr bf, i will also lose faith, juz a little stuff get angry and want break-up, not 1, not 2, but 3 times.

TS, i dun tink it is completely hopeless yet, the fact that he went through 3 break-up threats by u means that he is actually quite soft-hearted.

put in effort to chase him back, i'm sure u can do it. after dat rmb to be more patient with each other and stop playing around with the idea of break-up

I dunno how to chase a person back.

Nv have chase back experience.

any suggestions?

kawaiigal SG

Do you really love him? Or is this about your comfort zone and wounded pride?

Giving you the benefit of doubt, I'd still advise you to move on.

Life is a harsh teacher, thread more carefully next time

I love him.

I really do.

Maybe i wasn't truthful to him at all.

In e way, i dun epxress my love for him. For e.g I dun say I love u to him.

It's only when he's gone, I said it to him for the first and last.

Rednano SG

I dunno how to chase a person back.

Nv have chase back experience.

any suggestions?

"dear (friend name), can we be friends again?"

browniebaobao SG

ever watched a tw variety show..

the male celebrities were saying.. men cannot tolerate their gf mentioning breakups too many times.. the 3rd time she say break up will be a real break up.

browniebaobao SG

ever watched a tw variety show..

the male celebrities were saying.. men cannot tolerate their gf mentioning breakups too many times.. the 3rd time she say break up will be a real break up.

Chris1988 SG

kawaiigal before you chase him back, please do some self-reflection on the past 2 months and see what went wrong.

if you really felt that he's someone worth it, than tell us and we'll try to provide you advices on chasing him back.

if you feel that these minor bumps are going to happen often with this guy, i suggest you move on and start afresh and we'll also try to provide you with advices to move on.

if you need a new guy, i think this forum got a few la hor just need to loiter around longer to know who are the potential candidates.

lastly, please tell us your age if you don't mind if age is a sensitive issue to you than its ok to keep it a secret.

Sydney SG

Hi there girl

I've seen situations like this alot. When you love him more, he loves you less. It happens all the time. My advice to you is to move on. If you try to chase him back, he'll just treat you like dirt. Don't put yourself in such a situation.

Of course, not all guys are like this and its never good to generalise. Hopefully he's one of the rare exceptions. If you can't get over him just take things naturally. Don't force yourself to jump into a new relationship just because you wanna forget him quicker. It doesn't really work. Perhaps its time to enjoy your single life until you feel you are ready again.

Detached SG

I love him.

I really do.

Maybe i wasn't truthful to him at all.

In e way, i dun epxress my love for him. For e.g I dun say I love u to him.

It's only when he's gone, I said it to him for the first and last.

Well, friend. People are generally like this, always complacent and taking things for granted. Let this be a lesson, and hopefully when the next guy comes along, you'd know how to cherish things.

There're tons of 'getting-over-it' articles online, but I'd encourage you to recover at your own pace. Don't try too hard - one day when you're in the shower and the radio plays a song that reminds you of him... and you can smile at the memory... then you know you've moved on

The past made us, let this experience mould you into a better person.

jojobeach SG

well, he's e one who asked to be friends.

I din agree to it initially.

But now, when i feel that we can be friends, he dun even wanna talk to me anymore.

He's so being unfair to me everytime

Don't worry so much lah.

He's just enjoying his sweet sweet revenge on ya.

kawaiigal SG

kawaiigal before you chase him back, please do some self-reflection on the past 2 months and see what went wrong.

if you really felt that he's someone worth it, than tell us and we'll try to provide you advices on chasing him back.

if you feel that these minor bumps are going to happen often with this guy, i suggest you move on and start afresh and we'll also try to provide you with advices to move on.

if you need a new guy, i think this forum got a few la hor just need to loiter around longer to know who are the potential candidates.

lastly, please tell us your age if you don't mind if age is a sensitive issue to you than its ok to keep it a secret.

Well, i've got so many things to say abt his bad points and good points. But i do think that overall, he's a nice guy.

But given my situtation now, i doubt he really wanna talk to me since he nv sms or msn me for the past 2 weeks.

I dun nid a guy now. He's actually the one whom i'm seeking for.

Just that he appears at the wrong time i guess.

I dun mind telling u all my age, i'm 20 this year.

it's just so hard to move on...

it's unlike my first r/s which lasted for 2 years.

i dun understand y i can't seem t move on

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