4 yrs plus is neither long nor short; but if he's a person u
have been turning to for all ur problems etc, it will be difficult
to get 'accustomed' to the fact that he's no longer around.
It's not surprising that it's been a year, yet u still commented
that U can't let go.
I went through a life of booze and ktv and tears when my bf of
1.5yrs broke off with me; for two yrs, I blamed myself for the
break up; although frankly anyone can tell me he's actually at
fault, we broke up when I realised he had more than one gf, apart
from me.
We can all advise u on what to do, give u comments etc, but
ultimately, u are the only person to help urself out of this
situation.
Friends and family do play a part in helping u 'cope', rather
than listening to others saying wat a jerk that guy is, and
reminding u of him again and again via the scoldings, y not try
telling ppl dun speak of him again?
Any gifts from him which u stil kept? Throw~~ Things will remind
you of him. I throw throw everything of wat he gives away, for
those new ones and usable, I donated to charity. Photos? Throw
too~~
Ask urself, is he worth u going thru all this? If ur ans is
'no', u should know it's time to let go, get on with ur life.
Don't have a regret of not being able to let go now a few years
later. Cos when I thot of that 2 yrs of booze and ktv and tears, I
thot I was simply ridiculous.
Different individuals have different ways of release; do wat u
normally do to release. Have a real ultimate release of all ur
feelings, frustrations etc, cry ur hearts out, BUT the next day
tell urself it's all over, carry on with ur life W/O him anywhere
near.
Remember, after a stormy day, it's always a brand new sunny
day.
All things are never easy in the first place, but if u tried
hard enuff, u'll see the bright sunny day.
Jia You!
Yes i still keep everything from him. So many and too many. All
the photos. I still have his photo in my wallet now. When i first
break up with him i keep it away telling myself i should forget i
even save all the photos from my com to a disc so that i wun get to
see but i wanna keep as memories but again as time goes by
it's back in my wallet, and now the ring he bought is back on my
finger. I know i shouldn't but i tell myself i will remove it one
day when i found a very good reason to.
