my bf of 5yrs recently broke up wif me, citing i wasnt
understanding enough. he's in ns now and only book out during
wkends. as a gf, i of coz will miss him and wanna spend more time
with him mah.
he said i'm too "sticky", he wants to have his own freedom, and
sometimes wanna go out with other friends instead of me.. but i
really not understanding enough, keep insisting on meeting him and
he feels that his life is v.restricted and he cant do the things he
want.
we broke up 1week ago, but 1mth ago he still asked me whether
i'm willing to wait afew more mths for him before he ord.
and i told him i will wait for him. the problem is, i think we
both still love each other, but i dunno why he still wanna break
up?
he keep saying i dont appreciate wat he had ever done for me..
and i'm not understanding enough, coz i keep complaining he
dont spend much time with me.. and he ask me dont waste anymore
time on him, it's not worth it.. haiz.. i dunno whether wat he said
is really frm his heart or not.. i dunno whether i shd continue to
wait for him or not.. but he did mention, "i thought our r/s was
v.stable this time, and i thought u will understand me, but u
didnt.."
When u are talking abt more time, u nvr really mention it 1 or 2
days, when he book out there both sat and sun (How I wish during
this is during my serving time). If u expect that he spend
both days with u, I can understand the problem he will be facing,
he need some breathing space with friends (outside his camp) and
family. But if u expect like 1 of the weekend and he still
can't make it then I think he is a bit too much. I been
through the my NS and that time is even worst where we have only
1/2 days in Sat and if include all the time spend coming out all
this, mostly reach home at 2-3 pm already, and I had a few groups
of close friends that dun see eyes to eyes with each other (the ah
beng type and the a level style) but I am quite lucky/or unlucky
being single at that time.
Same problem will occur when he is working, at least in army
most of the weekend still free unless kenna duty, for some work,
weekend will be burnt when workload is heavy, boss happy happy ask
u to go overseas outstation for a few weeks.
