which would u choose? to go overseas to further studies for a
good future and risk ur relationship? or stay, keep the
relationship and sacrifice ur future? pls dont give answers like
'long-distance will work if the couple is truely in love...'
thanks!
You have already
limited yourself with absolute possibilities - for the choice of
one must be a sacrificial of another.
Why should that always be the case?
You know, in this post-modern society, we are so caught up in
the concept of rationality that we literally engage this rational
sense of ours in all aspects of our life and submerged ourselves in
calculation of what's the most 'profitable choice' at the end of
the day. Like the scenario you have presented: furthering your
studies for a good future verse keeping your relationship and
'sacrifice' your future?
Firstly, your future is not sacrificed even if you don't go
overseas and study. This is already a gross mispresentation. It's
not as if you are sentenced to sixteen years jail during your prime
years and screwed up your future in that sense.
The risk factor you have advocated is nothing but the existence
of fear where Love absolutely cannot tolerate. Hence, it began to
chip at your relationship until the cleft becomes a hole and before
you realize it, you have lost the relationship to some
self-generated fear, topple with adverse circumstances.
In Love, so what if the relationship fails? What's with this obsession
with a failing relationship anyway? Have we become
so rationalized with obtaining 'perfect scores' and 'good results'
that we cannot have the imagination and higher understanding that
there are times in love (and life) when we must fall in the
beginning to win later?
Failure suggested growth and not degeneration - the latter often
revealed an unevolved soul.
The irony of Love is that why focus on the fact that a
relationship would fail when one should focus on leading the
relationship while it last and make the best out of it?
Interestingly, you don't always lose when you have lost your
relationship.
Think about it. 
Cheers
