nightsky87, FYI, I have read through all the replies posted in
this topic which I started.
Obviously, I saw all the advices and appreciate them; but it's
not possible to reply each and every single one. FYI, I still have
to work as well. But, I do make it a point to read every reply as I
do appreciate all the advices.
Firstly, to post my 'life' on sg forum is not to get sympathy,
pity or whatsoever from anyone here. If I really wanna get that,
FYI, I can get it from anyone who knew me personally and share with
them all that had happened. AND, FYI, I never did that before.
Apart from a few friends who knew, no one else knew. AND, these few
friends amounted to only THREE.
Is that what you call by looking for sympathy and pity?
Get ur facts right before hurling accusations.
AND, if you have follow the thread correctly, w/o missing out
any, u'll realise that I have already mentioned that the next time
he said 'break off', I will try to master up enough courage to say
'Fine' and 'Byez'.
The recent incident of 'break off' which I mentioned in my
previous reply happened before I started this topic in Sg
Forum.
It was precisely because of this incident that led me wondering
about this relationship and what I have been doing for these four
years. Thus I started this thread; in the hope that the forumers
can enlighten me.
I do get the enlightenment from the replies; appreciate them and
thank these people.
You mentioned that I kept thinking and thinking; no actions. I
have already said I will said 'Fine' to his next 'break up'.
Besides, four years may not be long, may not be short either.
Humans have feelings; even if one has been physically abused
for years, end of it all, it will take a lot of courage to sue the
abuser, sometimes, there might not even be a court case.
If you are expecting me just call him and said, 'Hey, I
dump u this instant' and hang up; sorry, maybe U can do
it, I can't. I still have my humane side.
Even if we don't talk about humans, let's talk about pets. For
those true pets lovers, when they got bitten by their pets
repeatedly, do you think they will dump them or carry on loving
them? Or do U feel that these pet lovers don't have SELF RESPECT as
they put themselves through 'abuse' by their own pets?
And, being highly educated has practically no linkage with the
SELF RESPECT U are pointing. What's the link? Are U implying Highly
Ed = No Self Respect? And that not that highly ed = Higher Self
Respect?
Remember each of us is an individual, don't use education as a
weapon/comparison.
As for ruining and wasting my entire future,
apologies; like I mentioned in one of my replies
before, every apart of my life is good except the love
area.
AND, FYI, although I am in the corporate world, with
a so call 'high education', so what? What's the big deal
of being educated and in the corporate world? I am still a
human being; I believe in 'returning'/contributing to
society. I do volunteer work to help people, if you feel that
my future is ruined/wasted, are you indicating me doing volunteer
stuff is also ruining/wasting my own future?
For all my entire life, I only think about others, put
others before me. Help others whenever I can, even if it's
beyond my means.
Apologies, nightsky87, the laest I expected was false
accusations, something I can never stand in life.
Maybe the part of the LOVE MYSELF, u are right, I never love
myself, I LOVE every person around me and help them at the EXPENSE
of myself. If U felt this is wrong, I should LOVE MYSELF before
others, then I have nothing much to say. But, on the other hand, it
plainly shows what kind of person U may be.
Besides, never judge a person before U actually know him or her;
by judging him/her based on only a small portion, U are being
'biased' in a way; in short, U formed an impression on how U wanna
see things and feel abt things, adding in bits of ur own opinion
about that person. Whether this thinking is right or wrong, it's
debative, but do see things and people from a broader point of
view.
Yup, this is exactly the kind of response that I was hoping to
illicit, some form of agression, motivation and drive to change
your life for the better. I do apologize for my unkind words but
based on your reply to me, I think that your true friends, ie in
real life, as well as those who love and care for you, will be
heartened that you have found the resolve to try to solve the
problem at hand.
What you think of me is insignificant, I am merely another
nickname in the vast and infinite online world, but if there was
any chance through this forum you have found your resolve to change the
relationship to a more communicative, mutually respectful, loving
and caring one, if you find the courage to comminicate openly with
your partner to solve the conflicts at hand and turn your
relationship around for the better, then I think your life will be
a much better one, won't you agree?
I apologize for the harsh, unkind, rude and (insert negative
adjective here) replies and response, but regardless, I sincerely
wish you all the best and hope your life will turn out better.
