Dear Benzer.
Adultry falls under the broader umbrealla of Unreasonable
Behavior.
Unreasonable Behavior being the basis for claim and Adultry
being the facts supporting the claim.
And in spite of all the support expressed herein, I will be VERY
WARY of providing comfort or support to the affected party here by
simple virtue that we do not know the full facts of the matter. It
is amazing how certain untold details find their way into court
only to stun representing counsel.
Why bother looking for evidence? Adultery is just 1 means for
Divorce. Why not file for unreasonable behaviour? Talk to your
lawyer again, I am sure she would be in a better position to advise
you. As for custody, the court will normally grant it to the woman
if she can show proof that she is capable of looking after the
children and providing for them in a reasonable way. Moreover both
are of a tender age, and children this young would normally require
a loving mother figure around to care for them compared to that of
a male. Check and discuss it with your legal advisor.
As for that jerk, just leave him alone. Let him atone for his
own sins. If he thinks that he is doing great now, so be it. He
will get his due returns. I have a strong belief in KARMA, and if
you have done your best to hold this marriage together, tell
yourself that it is his loss, not yours!!!
Let me share something with you. Your postings were shown to me
by my son. He felt sad that this had to happen to someone and he
wanted me to reply. He probably felt the pain cos I am also a
divorcee with 2 kids. I had no money when I left my matrimonial
home. I had to borrow from siblings and friends to hire a lawyer.
Luckily she was kind and allowed me to pay in installments. I
fought and was granted custody for both kids. My lawyer stood by me
and told me that she will never respect a woman who does not want
her own child. It was a hard time for both the children and myself.
We had to adapt to many new things which we used to take for
granted. Luckily during that time, I had trust in my religion and
it really saw me through all those bad patches. Its been a couple
of years since my divorce. I am glad to say that I am happy as I am
now, having the children by my side. Life ain't a bed of roses,
neither is it a bed of thorns.
So please renew your faith in yourself and forge on. You
will succeed, and you will find new happiness ...
