I am depressed for being so single, and can
foresee myself being left on the shelf for the rest
of my life. Really envious of people who are good and healthy
relationships. I am already in my late twenties and didn't engage
in the relationship for years. I feel I have already missed the
boat in finding a partner as most of my colleagues are married or
engaged. I feel there is a stigma attached to singlehood. But I do
not want to walk into a dating agency and grab anyone who fancies
me. To me, relationship must be mutual.
So many people around me already talking about babies,
mother-in-laws etc.I feel so outdated. And often get questions
about when are you getting a boyfriend? getting married? you
already not young, do not be choosy, etc etc.
Sometimes, I do wonder if every woman on earth must get married.
I somehow feel an unmarried woman has some inbalance in her life.
Looking at some of the unmarried old woman I know, they seem to
experience certain things like bad temper, insecurity, loneliness,
defensiveness, extremely sensitive, etc. I just afraid I would end
up being like that soon.
Many a time, I wonder what is wrong with me. I always feel
awkward when I attend gatherings/ lunches whereby people talk
about their other half. Usually people will find me pleasant ,
in other words, they think I am simple -minded, easy-to-please
person. However, to the contrary,I am more opinonated and
independent. Perhaps thats put people off. And after the first
date, I didnt hear from the other party anymore. Then, again I
wonder if i should act dumb, pretend to be agreeable to look
more attractive to others, in other words act according to my
looks. By the way, I am not even materialistic in the first
place.
I just find it frustrating. Sometimes I think maybe when I hit
the big 30, I do not want to socialise anymore. Everyone will be
talking about partner/family issues which I can no longer
understand.
I think I can make up part of growing singles, who are not
welcomed.I already started to feel the stigma.
What do you guys think of women who are left on the shelf?
Problematic?
Most people sort of just settle for something or someone, in one
way or another, as time goes by and as they get older.
You can always join singles club, not because there are suitable
candidates for nesting, but because there are a few unmarried,
inbalanced characters experiencing certain things like bad temper,
insecurity, loneliness, defensiveness and extremely over
sensitivity. 
